Hi 💖 

Firstly, I want you to know that you're definitely not the only person who feels this way! Lots of teenagers (and adults!) are naturally messier than others, and having a bit of clutter around doesn't automatically mean there's something wrong with you.

That said, there's a difference between a room having personality and a room becoming so messy that you can't find things, feel overwhelmed, or avoid tidying because it seems like too much of a job. A bedroom can have loads of character and personality through things like posters, photos, books, favourite keepsakes, colourful cushions, artwork, or collections of things you love. Those are the things that make a room feel uniquely yours.

I do think people have a point when they say a tidy bedroom can help you feel calmer. It's a bit like pressing a reset button. But where many girls get stuck is thinking they need to spend an entire afternoon cleaning every corner of their room. That's enough to make anyone want to give up!

Instead, try building a few small habits:

• Every day: Pick clothes up off the floor. Put them in the laundry basket, hang them up, or put them back in a drawer.
• Once a week: Empty your bin and wipe down your desk or other surfaces.
• Choose one small area: Tidy just one drawer, shelf, or corner each week rather than tackling the whole room at once.

Doing little jobs regularly is much easier than waiting until your room feels completely out of control. Over time, you'll naturally develop some good organisation habits without feeling like you're constantly cleaning.

And honestly? If you like your room looking a little lived-in, that's okay. Not everyone enjoys a perfectly spotless space. The goal isn't perfection. It's creating a room that feels comfortable, practical, and makes you happy.

So no, this isn't necessarily a sign of anything. It might just mean you're someone who prefers a more relaxed environment. The important question is whether your room is working for you or making life harder. If you can still find what you need and feel comfortable in your space, a bit of clutter isn't the end of the world. 💕Vicki 

P.S. If you'd like more tips, check out my blog, The Battle of the Bedroom, where I share simple ways to keep your teen bedroom organised without spending hours tidying! 😊

Hi there ❤️

Great question! One thing that's really important to know is that puberty doesn't happen in exactly the same order for everyone. We all develop at our own pace, so try not to compare yourself to friends or classmates.

Some common signs of puberty include and can for some arrive in this order:

• Breast buds starting to develop
• A growth spurt where you get taller
  Mood swings and stronger emotions
• Spots or acne
• Pubic hair beginning to grow
• Underarm hair appearing
• Increased sweating and body odour
  Vaginal discharge

One of the most common signs that your first period may be coming soon is vaginal discharge. This is usually a clear or white fluid you might notice in your underwear. For many girls, discharge starts around 6 to 12 months before their first period, although it can be shorter or longer than that.

You might also notice:

• Mild tummy cramps
• Feeling more emotional than usual
• Bloating
• Tender or sore breasts
• Lower back aches

However, it's important to remember that some girls get their first period without noticing many signs at all. Bodies are amazing and unique, and everyone's puberty journey is a little different.

If you're wondering when your period might start, it can be helpful to learn about the signs and keep a few period pads in your school bag or at home, just in case.

Why not spend a few minutes reading the puberty and periods blogs on the Lil-Lets hub too? They're packed with helpful advice and answers to questions that lots of girls have. I've popped one below to start you off❤️

What Is Puberty & How To Manage It?

Vicki 

Hi there 💖

It can feel really awkward and embarrassing to talk to your mum about growing up, but you're definitely not the only one who feels that way. The good news is that most mums have been through exactly the same things and will understand how you're feeling.

One of the easiest ways to start the conversation is by asking your mum about her own experiences as a teenager. You could begin with something simple like:

• "What were you like when you were my age, Mum?"
• "How old were you when you got your first bra?"
• "When did you get your first period?"
• "Did you ever find puberty embarrassing?"

You don't need to ask everything at once. Sometimes having little five-minute chats can feel much easier than one big conversation. As you both get more comfortable, you'll probably find it easier to ask questions and get the advice you need.

Remember, there is no such thing as a silly question when it comes to puberty and growing up. Your mum is there to support you, and starting with a few simple questions about her experiences can be a great way to break the ice.

For more tips on talking to your parents about puberty, take a look at my blog below.

How To Ask Your Mum For Your First Bra

How Do I Tell Someone My First Period Is Here (or Might Be Coming Soon)?

Vicki x 💕

Morning💖

I completely understand why you feel that way! When you're going through puberty, it can sometimes seem as though girls have to deal with an awful lot, from breast development and periods to discharge, mood swings, and all the other changes that come with growing up.

And yes, some parts of being a girl can feel frustrating at times. But it's worth remembering that all those changes are happening because your body is developing in an amazing way. If you choose to one day, your body could even grow and carry a baby, which is something pretty incredible.

That said, boys don't get a completely free ride either. They go through their own challenges during puberty, even if they're not always as obvious. Many boys have to cope with:

• Voice breaking, which can feel embarrassing.
• Sudden growth spurts that can make them feel awkward or clumsy.
• Acne, often on the face, chest, and back.
• Increased body odour and sweating.
• Big emotional changes caused by hormones.
• Feeling pressure to look or act a certain way.

Sometimes boys don't talk about these things as much, so it can seem like they're having an easier time when they may actually be struggling too.

I think the truth is that puberty is tough for everyone, just in different ways. Girls and boys face different challenges, and neither has it easy all the time. It's one of the reasons I wrote my blog on Puberty and Boys below.

What Happens to Boys During Puberty? A Simple Guide for Girls

So the next time you're feeling fed up with periods, discharge, bras, or all the other things puberty brings, remember that you're not alone, and most of the boys around you are probably dealing with changes they're finding confusing too. Vicki 💖

💖 Hi there,

That's a really good question, and lots of girls your age wonder exactly the same thing.

To be honest, puberty can start at different ages for different people. For some girls, it can begin as early as 8 years old, while for others it might not start until they're 10, 11 or even older. Everybody develops at their own pace, and all of those ages can be perfectly normal.

Some of the first signs of puberty can include:

• Feeling more emotional than usual, such as being happy one minute and upset or annoyed the next.
• Breast development starting. At first, you might notice a small, firm bump behind one or both nipples. This is often one of the earliest signs that puberty has begun.
• Growing taller more quickly.
• Noticing body odour, especially after exercise.
• Getting a few spots or having slightly oilier skin.

Remember, puberty doesn't happen overnight. The changes usually happen slowly over several years, so there's no need to worry if your friends seem to be developing before or after you.

It's actually one of the reasons we created our Teens Hub. We know that puberty is about so much more than periods. From body changes and emotions to friendships, skincare, body confidence and growing up, there can be lots of questions along the way. That's why I've written blogs covering all aspects of the puberty journey, so you can find trustworthy advice and feel supported every step of the way.

The most important thing to know is that everyone's body has its own timetable. Whether puberty starts now or a little later, your body is simply growing exactly as it's meant to.

What Is Puberty & How To Manage It?

💕 Vicki

Hiya💜

What you're describing sounds completely normal. Vaginal discharge doesn't usually stay the same all the time. There may be days when it's more watery and dries a pale yellow colour in your underwear, and other times when it's much thicker, stretchy or more like egg white.

These changes happen because of hormones, especially during puberty. As your body develops, it's very common for discharge to change in both texture and amount. In fact, noticing more discharge can be a sign that your body is continuing to mature, even if you haven't started your period yet.

Many girls find that some days they have hardly any discharge, while on other days they need to change their underwear or wear a pantyliner to feel more comfortable. Both thicker and runnier discharge can be normal as long as it doesn't have a strong unpleasant smell and isn't causing itching, soreness or discomfort.

Since you haven't had your first period yet, it's also worth knowing that discharge often starts months, or even a year or more, before periods begin. It can change quite a bit during that time, so what you're noticing isn't unusual at all.

For now, wearing breathable cotton underwear and changing it regularly can help you stay comfortable. If you'd like extra protection, a pantyliner can help manage discharge, whether it's thick or watery.

Your body is doing exactly what it's supposed to be doing, so try not to worry. Vicki 💜

Hi there 💕 Yes, that makes perfect sense, and I think what you're feeling is actually quite common.

At 12 years old, it can be confusing when your body starts changing but you don't quite feel grown up on the inside. You might have started your period, noticed changes to your breasts, or found yourself needing different bras, but emotionally you may still feel very much like a child. That can leave you feeling caught somewhere in between, and that in-between stage can be both exciting and unsettling.

The thing to remember is that there is no correct way to look at 12 or 13. Some girls develop breasts quite early, some later. Some grow taller quickly, while others take longer. Even if you've had your period for a while, your body still has lots of growing and developing to do over the next few years.

It also sounds as though you're comparing yourself to an idea of what you think a young woman should look like. The reality is that puberty happens at different speeds for everyone. There are plenty of 13-year-olds who still look very youthful, and that's completely normal.

My advice would be to dress, act, and enjoy the things that make you feel comfortable and happy. There's no rush to look older or more grown up. Your body will continue to change in its own time, and you don't need to force anything.

What I hear most in your question is a bit of uncertainty rather than anything being wrong. You're growing up, but you're not fully grown up yet, and that's exactly where you're supposed to be.

Be kind to yourself. You've got lots of development still ahead of you, and there's no deadline for looking or feeling like a woman.Vicki 💕

Hi, a lot of people think that puberty ends when your period starts, but that's actually a myth.

Even though you've started your periods, your body will continue to develop for several more years. Your breasts may continue to grow and change shape, your body shape may become more curvy, and you may still grow taller. Many girls continue growing for a few years after their first period, although usually not as quickly as they did before.

From what you've told me, you're already quite close to your mum's height and have the same size feet, but that doesn't mean you've finished growing. Some people reach their adult height earlier than others, and there's no way to predict exactly how much growing you have left.

The important thing to remember is that every puberty journey is unique. There's no countdown timer, and no two people develop at exactly the same pace.

So, the answer is: you've still got some puberty left to go, but that's completely normal. Your body will keep developing through your mid to late teens, and it will do so in its own time.💜

Hi, our Lil-Lets Teens Hub was created for teens and pre-teens, with blogs and advice designed to help them navigate puberty. Occasionally, I do receive questions from children as young as 8, and I always try to answer in a way that's easy to understand without using too much technical jargon.

While your daughter may not be ready for all of the content just yet, many parents find that introducing simple, age-appropriate information before puberty starts can help children feel more prepared and less worried when changes begin to happen.

You might like to consider our Lil-Lets Teens Starter Pack. It includes a selection of period products and a helpful booklet that you can read through together. Many mums find this is a lovely way to start conversations about puberty, answer any questions, and help break down any barriers before their daughter begins her journey into adulthood.

Ultimately, you know your daughter best, but if she is curious and asking questions, exploring information together can be a great way to support her.

Hi 💜

I completely understand why you're feeling a bit awkward about it. The thought of sitting through lessons about puberty, relationships and growing up with the whole class there can feel embarrassing at first, especially when it's a mixed group.

But honestly, try not to worry too much. Listen to what your teacher is saying, keep your focus on the lesson, and try not to get caught up in any giggling or silly comments from other people. Most of the time, when classmates start laughing, it's simply because they're embarrassed too. Chances are they're feeling just as awkward as you are!

The truth is that these lessons are important for everyone, regardless of whether they're a boy or a girl. Understanding how bodies change helps us all become more respectful, informed and confident.

And let's be honest, if you've been reading the brilliant articles on our Teens Hub, you probably already know far more than you think! 😊

Go in with an open mind, remember that everyone is learning together, and before you know it, the lesson will be over.💜

Hi 💜 It's completely normal to notice changes in your body around your age. During puberty, your body starts to change both physically and emotionally, and sometimes those changes can make you wonder if your period is on the way.

While what you're feeling doesn't necessarily mean your period will start tomorrow, it could be a sign that you're entering puberty. Things like breast development, growth spurts, body hair and changes in mood are all common parts of growing up.

That's one of the reasons we've created lots of helpful blogs, to help girls like you understand what's happening to their bodies and feel more confident during this exciting time.

And remember, you can always come back and ask me as many questions as you like. No question is too small or silly! 💜😊

Hi, first of all, you're definitely not alone in this! 💜

Puberty is very well known for messing with sleep. Your body and brain are growing and changing so quickly that your sleep patterns can end up feeling completely out of sync. Add in the warm summer weather we're enjoying, and it's no wonder you're finding it hard to drift off.

 Let's tackle the puberty part first:

Try creating a relaxing evening routine:

• 5pm–6pm: Finish homework or school tasks.
• 6pm–7pm: Stay active. Go for a walk, dance around your room, play a sport, or just spend some time moving your body.
• Later in the evening: Start winding down. Read a book, do something creative, or chat with friends.
• After 9pm: Have a cool shower or bath to help lower your body temperature and signal to your brain that it's bedtime.
• Top tip: Put your phone on charge away from your bed. I know, I know—it's hard! But if it's within reach, it's way too easy to start scrolling "for five minutes" and suddenly it's midnight. The doom scroll is real!

What about the hot weather?

When it's warm, sleeping can feel impossible, but these tricks can help:

• Keep a bottle of water by your bed so you stay hydrated.
• Wear loose, lightweight clothes. A parent's oversized T-shirt can make the perfect comfy sleep top.
•  If your duvet feels too hot, sleep on top of it with just a light sheet or blanket.
• If your room feels stuffy, a fan can help keep the air moving and make you feel cooler.

If you're struggling to sleep right now, don't panic. Lots of teens go through this during puberty. Focus on a good evening routine, try to keep cool, and remember that your body is working hard behind the scenes. 

You may find my blog below a handy read too.

Too Tired For School

Morning 💛 thank you for sharing this, it takes confidence to ask about changes in your body, especially when things feel a bit unfamiliar at first. What you’re describing is a really normal part of growing up, but it makes sense that it’s caught your attention.

💧 About discharge
It’s completely normal to notice discharge starting around your age. As your body begins puberty, your hormones change, and this is one of the ways your body responds.

Discharge can change colour, it might be clear, white, or sometimes a light yellow, it can change texture too, gong from watery some days, and then thicker or creamier on others. And finally the amount you produce can vary too and you might notice more at certain times.

Warm weather can also make it seem like there’s more, because it can mix with sweat. But don't worry this is all part of your body keeping itself healthy and balanced.

As it continues to grow, it usually starts to curl and settle into its natural shape. It won’t just keep growing longer and longer.

There’s also no pressure to do anything with it, it’s completely your choice, now or later, and many people simply leave it as it is.

🫶 A little reassurance
Your body is going through important changes right now, and new things can feel a bit surprising when you haven’t experienced them before.
From everything you’ve described, your body is doing exactly what it’s supposed to do at this stage.

Your just at the start of your puberty journey and you are always welcome to come and visit me here, or read my blogs for tips on what to expect in the coming years and how to manage these changes. 🤍

Hi 💛What a great question...and honestly, you’re right… it is frustrating!

You’ve got school, exams, friendships, everything changing at once, and then puberty just adds a whole extra layer on top. It can feel like a lot, because your body, brain, and emotions are all developing at the same time, so things can feel more intense, confusing, and sometimes totally out of your control.

One of the biggest things to remember is that everyone’s journey is different. You might look at friends or siblings and feel behind, ahead, or just different, but there’s no “correct” timeline. Puberty is unique to you, and even though it can feel messy and unpredictable now, it does settle with time.

hat’s exactly why spaces like this exist, Lil-Lets know how hard puberty is and we wanted a place where you could find out all about what to expect and how to manage it, so you don’t have to figure it all out on your own. You can come here, ask anything (big or small), and get honest answers without judgement. You’re doing better than you think, even asking this question shows how aware and strong you are 💕

Hi 💛You’re definitely not alone, spots can show up on your back, neck, and chest during puberty, not just your face. It happens because your body is making more oil (sebum) right now, which can clog pores and lead to breakouts.

The good news is there are simple things you can do to help:

• Use a gentle cleanser or face wash on those areas in the shower (not harsh soap)
• Keep showers warm, not too hot, and rinse off sweat after exercise
• Try not to wear tight or clingy clothes for long periods, especially when you’re sweaty
• Go for breathable fabrics like cotton
• Change tops/bras regularly, especially after sweating
• Avoid picking spots (I know it’s tempting!) as it can make things worse

If it’s quite persistent, look for body washes with ingredients like salicylic acid or chat to a pharmacist, they can recommend something stronger if needed.

It might feel annoying, but this stage won’t last forever, your skin will settle as your body balances out. You’re doing the right thing by asking and taking care of it 💕

I get this, it’s so easy to fall into the phone trap. Try setting yourself just two small tasks each night so it doesn’t feel overwhelming. Then put your phone in a different room or give it to a parent while you study for that set time.

Make sure your space is calm, with good light and no distractions like TV, music, or other people. Start small, even 30 minutes to an hour is enough to build the habit and break the scrolling cycle. Once you get into it, it honestly gets easier.

Honestly? This is not as bad as you think...in fact a lot of teens feel exactly like this sometimes, your body and brain are going through so many changes, and yes, hormones can play a big part in those “I just want to do nothing” days. It doesn’t mean you’re lazy or unmotivated, it just means your body is asking for a bit of downtime and that’s actually okay in small doses.

If you do want to nudge yourself out of that slump a little, try keeping it super simple: plan one or two small things for the day (nothing overwhelming), like tidying a drawer, baking something fun, or going for a short walk. You can also make little tweaks, like giving the TV remote to someone else for a bit, or opening your window and making your bed less cosy so you’re not tempted to stay in it all day.

And for the record…bracelet making sounds like a perfectly valid activity to me, I love that too and I am currently wearing a green and brown stone bracelet all handmade! 💕

Hi, firstly you can ask me as many questions as you want, I am always ready to listen and it sounds like you’ve got a lot going on right now, so it’s totally understandable you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed. Puberty can feel confusing and a bit scary, especially when your body is changing and you’re not sure what’s coming next, but everything you’ve described (like discharge, mood swings, pubic hair, and changes to your breasts) are all completely normal signs that your period will come at some point. It doesn’t mean it will happen straight away, just that your body is getting ready, and that’s a healthy, natural process.

Why not read all the fabulous blogs I have written on the website for teens. 

With school, friendships, and your ballet show all happening at once, try to take things one step at a time. You don’t have to handle everything perfectly, just doing your best is enough. It might help to talk to a parent, teacher, or another trusted adult when you feel worried, so you’re not carrying it all on your own. And for your Cinderella performance, remember how hard you’ve practised, you’ve already done the most important part. Be proud of yourself, take a deep breath, and enjoy it ✨

Hi, what you’re describing actually sounds really common, especially during puberty and it doesn’t automatically mean you have body dysmorphia. 

It’s normal to:

• Like how you look one day and not the next
• Feel okay in some clothes but uncomfortable in others (like shorts)
• Notice certain body parts more depending on lighting, angles, or mood
• Be more critical of your body when you’re stressed, tired, or comparing yourself to others

Puberty is often a time of self-doubt and being super critical of how we look. Your body is changing, and your brain is still getting used to it. That alone can make your perception feel inconsistent, so please try not to worry.

Hi, I just want to reassure you that what you’re experiencing is completely normal. Puberty doesn’t happen all at once, and it doesn’t look the same for everyone, some people notice lots of emotional or “non-physical” changes early, and others don’t notice those things until a bit later.

Being 11 and not noticing those kinds of changes yet is absolutely nothing to worry about. Your body (and mind) are on their own timeline, and they’ll develop in the way that’s right for you, even if it looks different from your friends. Everyone’s journey through puberty is slightly different, and that includes how and when emotional or social changes show up.

Try not to compare yourself too much to others, even though I know that’s easier said than done. You’re not behind, and there’s nothing wrong, you’re just developing in your own time, exactly as you should.