Your idea of giving thank-you cards is lovely and a great way to end the year on a positive note! If you’re handing cards out to the whole team, it’s best to keep the approach consistent so it doesn’t feel like you’re singling anyone out. Asking this one colleague for a separate catch-up could send mixed signals, especially if others aren’t invited.

Instead, give them their card in the same way as everyone else, smile, wish them happy holidays, and maybe add a short personal note inside like: “I’ve really enjoyed chatting with you this year hope we get more chances to catch up in the new year!” That keeps things friendly and natural without putting pressure on either of you. Over time, rapport usually grows through small, relaxed interactions rather than big gestures.

Hi, it’s definitely not too early to hand out New Year cards at the end of term, lots of people do this when they won’t see friends again until January. It’s a lovely idea, and adding a personal touch will make them even more special.

You could write something like:
“Happy Holidays and a wonderful New Year! Thank you for being such a great friend this year—I’ve loved spending time with you and can’t wait for more fun in the year ahead.”

Or:
“Wishing you a Happy New Year filled with happiness and success! Thanks for all the laughs and support this year, you’ve made it amazing.”

First, if you’re under 16, it’s important to know that being sexually active is unlawful in the UK, so please make sure you’re legally old enough before taking things further. If you are, then the most important thing is open communication with your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel, your insecurities, your worries about expectations, and what you need to feel comfortable. A caring partner will listen and reassure you. There’s absolutely no rush; intimacy should happen when you both feel ready and safe.

Before anything physical, talk about contraception and protection. Visiting a local sexual health clinic or speaking to a healthcare professional can give you clear, confidential advice. And remember this: bodies are real, not filtered or edited like on the internet. Your boyfriend already treats you with respect and says he doesn’t care about those things and that’s a good sign. Confidence comes from knowing your worth, not from meeting unrealistic standards.

It can feel really hard when something you love starts to feel like a competition, especially with someone who’s supposed to be your best friend.

The truth is, dance is meant to bring you joy, not stress, and you’ve already shown so much maturity by wanting to keep your friendship strong. When your friend gets praised or talks about her scores, try to remind yourself that her success doesn’t take away from your talent. You’re both amazing in your own ways, and being in different categories means you’re not even truly competing. If she makes a comment, just smile and say something like, “Well done! I’m just happy to be part of this and enjoy what I do.” That simple response can take the pressure off and show you’re not trying to one-up her.

If things still feel tense, it’s okay to gently talk to her. You could say, “I love dancing with you, but I don’t want us to feel like we’re competing all the time. Can we just enjoy this together?” Sometimes friends don’t realise how their words affect us until we share how we feel.

Remember, your worth isn’t measured by scores or compliments, it’s in the passion you bring to your dancing. Keep focusing on what makes you happy, and let the rest fall away. 

It sounds like you’re carrying a lot of mixed emotions right now, relief because you’ve stepped away from something unhealthy, but also guilt and sadness because you care about this person and don’t want them to feel hurt. That’s a really human response, and it shows how empathetic you are.

Here are a few things to keep in mind:

 Why you feel guilty

• You invested a lot in this friendship, so it’s natural to feel responsible for their feelings.
• But remember: caring too much was part of what made the dynamic unhealthy. You were being manipulated and pressured, and that’s not sustainable.

 Why this decision is healthy

• Setting boundaries isn’t cruel, it’s self-care.
• You’re not cutting them off completely; you’re just creating space so you can both grow without the unhealthy dependency.

What to do now

• Keep it polite but distant: Smile, say hi if you want, but don’t re-engage deeply.
• Remind yourself of your reasons: Write down why you needed this change. When guilt creeps in, revisit that list.
• Let time do its work: They may feel sad now, but this could help them learn healthier patterns too.

You’ve made a brave choice, and it’s okay to feel conflicted. Both things can be true: you care about them, and you need to protect your mental well-being.

This is something lots of girls do when they’re new to periods, so you’re definitely not alone! As you get more used to your cycle, you’ll learn what your flow is like and which pads work best for you. That will help you feel more confident and less worried about leaks.

For now, try to remind yourself that pads are designed to keep you protected, and checking all the time isn’t usually necessary. Over time, you’ll trust your body and your products more it’s something we all figure out as we go!

Hi! Your periods might stay irregular for a few more years, and that’s completely normal - even if it feels a little frustrating.

Your body is still figuring out the cycle that works best for you, and during your teenage years it can take time for hormones to balance out. So try not to worry—things will settle eventually.

Hi! Yes, that’s totally normal and nothing to worry about. Breasts grow at different speeds for everyone, and it’s common for them to grow in spurts with long pauses in between. Sometimes they don’t change much for a while, and then suddenly they do.

Growth can continue through your late teens and even into your early twenties, so you still have plenty of time for changes to happen. Everyone’s body is different, so try not to compare yourself to others.

Yes! If someone is bullying you, standing up for yourself and letting them think an adult is aware can really help. Often, that’s all it takes for people to realise they’re being unkind and stop. You didn’t do anything wrong what matters is that you made it clear their behaviour isn’t okay.

If they keep bothering you or start again, it’s important to tell a trusted adult for real, like your mum or a teacher, so you have support. You deserve to feel safe and respected at school.

It sounds like you’re feeling left out and that’s really tough, especially when you’re trying to settle into a new school and make friends. What you’re experiencing is actually pretty common in high school, especially when some people already have a long history together. The twins might not realise how their behaviour is making you feel, but that doesn’t make it any less frustrating.

Here are a few things you could try:

1. Talk to your main friend privately. Let her know how you’re feeling not in a blaming way, but something like:
“Sometimes I feel invisible when we’re all together. I really value hanging out with you, but I’d love to feel more included.”
This gives her a chance to support you and maybe help balance things out.

2. Join the conversation actively. If the twins are talking to your friend, try jumping in with a question or comment. It can feel awkward at first, but even small contributions help you feel more present.

3. Suggest doing something one-on-one. Invite your main friend to hang out just the two of you sometimes. That can strengthen your bond and make you feel less dependent on the group dynamic.

4. Keep your options open. High school is full of opportunities to meet new people clubs, sports, classes. Building a wider circle can take the pressure off this one group.

Hi! It’s totally normal for periods to stay irregular for a while after they start, sometimes even for a few years. Your body is still adjusting and making changes, so it can take time before things settle into a regular pattern.

I know it can feel frustrating and make you anxious when they show up unexpectedly, but what you’re experiencing is very common. I