Hi there ❤️

First of all, please be kind to yourself. What you're describing sounds a lot like what many girls experience during puberty.

During your teens, your body naturally changes shape. Your face can become a little fuller, your hips may widen, and your tummy may look rounder than it did when you were younger. These changes can feel strange because they often happen quite quickly, and sometimes your mind takes longer to adjust to your new body.

You mentioned that a BMI calculator said you were in the healthy weight range, and your scales showed low body fat and high muscle. That's actually really reassuring. Muscle weighs more than fat, so the number on the scales doesn't always tell the whole story. It sounds as though your body is growing and developing rather than there being a problem with your weight.

It's also very common to notice that your body responds differently to food as you get older. When you're younger, you grow at different rates, and as puberty starts, your body begins storing energy and developing into its adult shape.

Rather than focusing on losing weight, try focusing on healthy habits. Aim for three balanced meals a day, drink plenty of water, and find ways to stay active during the summer holidays, even just two 20 minute activities can make a huge difference. This doesn't have to mean exercising for hours. Walking, dancing in your bedroom, swimming, cycling, or meeting friends at the park all count!

If you'd like to talk to your mum, you could simply say:

"Mum, I've been feeling a bit worried about my body lately and I was wondering if we could talk about it. I'm finding it hard to know what's normal during puberty."

Most mums would much rather you shared your worries than kept them to yourself.

Remember, from everything you've said, it doesn't sound like you're "unhealthy" or that you need to go on a diet. It sounds like you're a 13-year-old whose body is growing exactly as it should. Why not check out the two blogs below for more advice on weight and a growing body.

Weight gain in Teens

Growth Spurts & Growing Pains

Vicki ❤️

Hi there ❤️

If you're a pre-teen or teenager and your periods have only started recently, then yes, an 83-day gap between periods can be completely normal. During the first few years, menstrual cycles are often irregular because your body is still figuring out its own pattern.

It's quite common to miss a period for a month or even two when you're new to periods. It doesn't automatically mean that anything is wrong. Often, it simply means your hormones are still settling into a regular rhythm.

Because it can be hard to predict when your next period will arrive, it's a good idea to carry a few period pads or period products with you, just in case. A small period kit, like the Lil-Lets teens starter kit in your bag can help you feel prepared and confident wherever you are.

As your body matures, your periods will usually become more regular, but this can take time, so try not to worry. Vicki ❤️

Hi there ❤️

This isn't a weird question at all. In fact, it's something lots of people wonder when they're learning to use tampons for the first time!

The simple answer is no, you can't accidentally put a tampon in the wrong hole.

There are three openings between your legs:

• The urethra, where urine (wee) comes out. This opening is very small, so a tampon cannot be inserted there.
• The anus (bottom), where poo comes out. Although a tampon could fit there in theory, it's in a completely different position, so you wouldn't accidentally put it there when trying to insert a tampon.
• The vaginal opening, which is where a tampon is designed to go. It's located between the urethra and the anus.

If you're able to insert a tampon and it feels comfortable once it's in place, it's almost certainly in your vagina. If a tampon is inserted correctly, you shouldn't really be able to feel it.

It's completely normal to feel nervous when using a tampon for the first time, but your body is designed in a way that makes it very unlikely you'll put it in the wrong place by accident. Vicki ❤️

Hi there ❤️

I think it's great that you're paying attention to your cycle and learning about what's happening in your body.

The symptoms you've described, including bloating, cravings, mood swings, feeling low on energy, period cramps, and even diarrhoea, can all happen in the days before a period. So yes, it's possible that your second period is on its way.

That said, irregular periods are very common for the first few years after your periods start. Sometimes your body can produce the hormones that cause PMS symptoms without your cycle being perfectly regular yet.

Your vaginal discharge sounds completely normal too. Sticky, clear, watery, or slippery discharge is often linked to hormonal changes and isn't usually anything to worry about.

At 27 days since your last period, you're still well within the normal range (21-34 days). The cramps and other symptoms might mean your period is getting ready to arrive, but if it takes a little longer, that's completely normal too.

Try not to stress. Your body is still finding its own rhythm, and that's very common after a first period. Vicki ❤️

💙 Hi there,

With the warmer weather finally making an appearance, it's no surprise that one of the questions I've been asked most recently is: "How do I put in a tampon?"

If you're thinking about trying tampons for the first time, please know that it's completely normal to feel a little nervous. Most people need a few tries before they feel confident, and that's absolutely okay.

Before you start, I'd usually recommend waiting until you've had a few periods and have begun to understand your flow. If you're younger, it can also help to have a chat with a parent, carer, or another trusted adult so you feel supported and able to ask any questions you may have.

Tips for first-time tampon use

• Try using a tampon on one of your heavier flow days, usually around day 2 or 3 of your period, as insertion can feel easier.
• Relax as much as possible. Taking a few deep breaths beforehand can help.
  Angle the tampon slightly towards the base of your spine rather than straight upwards.
• A gentle cough while inserting may help your muscles relax.
• Start with a lower absorbency tampon and wear a pantyliner as backup while you're getting used to it.
• If it doesn't feel comfortable, don't worry. You can remove it and try again later.

Remember, when a tampon is positioned correctly, you shouldn't really be able to feel it. If it feels uncomfortable, it may just need adjusting, or you might want to try again another time.

Most importantly, don't put pressure on yourself. Some people take to tampons straight away, while others prefer pads or period pants, and that's perfectly fine too. Period products aren't one-size-fits-all. The best choice is simply the one that makes you feel most comfortable and confident.

And if you need more period advice? Take a look at our period guides, explore our range of products, or get in touch if you have a question you'd like answered. Remember, no question is too small when it comes to understanding your body. Vicki 💙

Hi there 💖

Yes, it's completely normal to feel that way!

A lot of people talk about the negative side of periods, such as cramps, bloating, or the inconvenience of dealing with them, so it can sometimes seem as though everyone hates having a period. But that's not true.

Many girls actually like getting their period because it reassures them that their body is working normally, helps them feel grown up, or simply because it's become a familiar part of their routine. Some even enjoy the excuse to slow down, take extra care of themselves, and have a bit of self-care time.

Even if you get cramps, it's still okay to feel positive about your period. Everyone experiences periods differently, and there's no "right" way to feel about them.

So don't worry, you're definitely not alone. If you like being on your period, that's just as normal as someone else finding it frustrating. ❤️

Vicki ❤️

Hi there 💖

I can see why you're asking, especially if you love going to Judo on Tuesdays and want to be prepared!

The tricky thing about periods is that there's no particular day of the month when they're most likely to start. Every girl's cycle is a bit different, and a normal cycle can be anywhere from about 21 to 34 days, so your period probably won't arrive on the same date each month.

A good idea is to keep track of when your periods start, either in a diary, or on a calendar. After a few months, you may begin to spot a pattern and get a better idea of when your next period is due.

If you've only started having periods recently, try not to worry if they seem a bit unpredictable. First periods are often quite irregular while your body is still growing and developing, so surprise arrivals are very common!

My top tip is to keep a few period pads, pantyliners, or your preferred period products in your school bag or Judo kit. That way, if your period decides to show up on a Tuesday, you'll be ready for it and can focus on enjoying your Judo session.

And remember, periods shouldn't stop you doing the things you love. Vicki ❤️

Hi there 💖

Yes, it's absolutely okay to want to try tampons at 13, and many girls choose to use tampons after they've had a few periods if they find period pads uncomfortable.

If you've had around three periods and are starting to understand your flow, it can be a good time to give tampons a try. Many people switch because they don't like the feeling of wearing a period pad, especially during warm weather, when exercising, or when they're out and about.

If you're a beginner, start with a light or regular absorbency tampon, such as a Lil-Lets Lite tampon. It can also help to wear a pantyliner as a backup until you feel confident and learn which absorbency works best for your flow.

Don't worry if it takes a few attempts to get the hang of inserting a tampon. It shouldn't hurt when it's in properly, and you shouldn't really be able to feel it. Make sure you read the instructions inside the packet and remember to change your tampon regularly according to the manufacturer's guidance. You may also find our Guide To Inserting A Tampon good to read too!

Most importantly, choose the period product that makes you feel comfortable and confident. Everyone is different, and it's perfectly normal to prefer tampons over period pads.

Vicki ❤️

Hi there 💖

Yes, what you're describing makes perfect sense, and it's more common than you might think.

For the most part we're all social creatures, so it's completely normal to enjoy being around other people and to feel happier when you're spending time with friends and family. The tricky part is when your happiness depends entirely on having someone else around.

If you often feel uncomfortable in your own company, try not to be too hard on yourself. Many people struggle with this. Building confidence on your own takes time, and it can help to find activities you genuinely enjoy by yourself, whether that's listening to music, reading, gaming, exercising, or getting creative.

It can also be worth asking yourself what makes being alone difficult. Do you feel lonely, bored, anxious, or simply unsure of what to do with your time? Understanding the reason can help you work out what you need.

Remember, it's healthy to lean on other people sometimes, but it's also important to learn how to enjoy your own company. The more comfortable you become with yourself, the less you'll rely on others for your happiness.

Be kind to yourself. You're not unusual, and this is something that can get easier with time. ❤️ Vicki ❤️

Hi there 💖 I'm so sorry for your loss.

Losing someone who means a lot to you, whether that's a family member, friend, or even a beloved pet, can be incredibly painful. As a child or teenager, it can feel especially confusing because you're trying to cope with your own feelings while also seeing the people around you upset and grieving too.

One of the most important things to remember is that it's okay to be sad. Grief isn't something you need to "get over" quickly or hide from others. Crying, feeling angry, missing the person, or even having days when you feel completely fine are all normal parts of the grieving process.

It can help to talk about the person you've lost with someone you trust, write down your feelings in a journal, look at happy photos, or create a special memory box filled with things that remind you of them. Some people also find comfort in sharing stories and memories with family and friends.

Try to be patient and kind to yourself. Grief doesn't follow a timetable, and everyone experiences it differently. Over time, the sadness usually becomes easier to carry. The memories that make you cry today may one day make you smile because you'll be remembering the happy moments you shared together.

Most of all, don't feel that you have to go through this alone. If you're struggling, reach out to a parent, trusted adult, teacher, or friend. Talking about how you're feeling can make a big difference.

Sending you a big hug. ❤️ Vicki

Hi there 💖

The reason many period pads come with wings is that they help keep the pad securely in place and can reduce the chances of leaks, especially on heavier flow days. However, if you really don't like them, that's perfectly okay.

One option is to fold the wings underneath the pad rather than wrapping them around your underwear. The main adhesive strip on the pad should still help keep it in place. 

It may take a little trial and error to find the type of period product that feels most comfortable for you. Some people prefer wingless period pads, while others find period pants, reusable pads, or tampons work better for their lifestyle.

The most important thing is that you feel comfortable, confident, and protected during your period. There's no "right" or "wrong" preference when it comes to period products. Vicki ❤️

Hi there 💖

It sounds as though you're stuck in a really difficult position. On one hand, you care about your friend and enjoy spending time with her, but on the other, your dad clearly has concerns about the friendship. That's not an easy situation to be in.

Although you don't mention your age, I'm assuming you're under 18 and still living at home. If that's the case, it's important to take your parents' concerns seriously, even if you don't fully agree with them right now.

I can understand why you might be tempted to meet your friend without your parents knowing, especially if you feel they are being unfair. However, I wouldn't recommend doing that. Meeting someone in secret could damage the trust between you and your parents and may make the situation even harder to resolve.

Instead, try having a calm conversation with your dad. Ask him to explain exactly what his concerns are about your friend. Listen carefully to his reasons, then explain your own feelings about the friendship. Sometimes parents notice things that young people don't, but sometimes they can also misunderstand a situation. The best way forward is through honest communication.

You could also ask whether there is a compromise. For example, could you spend time with your friend in places your parents are comfortable with, or invite her over when they are around? That might help everyone feel more at ease.

Most importantly, don't put yourself in a position where you feel you have to choose between your family and your friend without first trying to talk things through. Being open and honest is usually the best way to build trust and find a solution that works for everyone. Vicki ❤️

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Hi there 💖

A school period emergency kit can be a real confidence booster because it means you're prepared if your period starts unexpectedly or catches you by surprise.

My top recommendation would be to start with the Lil-Lets Teen Starter Kit. It comes in a lovely little toiletries bag and includes a selection of period pads, pantyliners, and tampons, so you can find out what works best for you. It also includes a helpful puberty guide that explains what to expect as your body changes.

Once you've got the basics, I'd add:

• A spare pair of underwear
• Intimate wipes or gentle unscented wipes
• An empty disposal bag for wrapping used period products if there isn't a bin nearby

Having these items tucked away in your school bag can help you feel much more relaxed and prepared.

Remember, most girls get caught out by their period at least once, so having an emergency kit doesn't mean you expect something to go wrong. It just means you're ready if it does!

Vicki 💖

Hi there 💖

That's a really good question!

Whether you're using a thick period pad, a thin period pad, or an ultra-thin pad, they can usually all be worn comfortably for up to 8 hours before they should be changed, with most people changing every 3-5 hours to reduce pad odour.

The thickness of the pad doesn't determine how long you can wear it. Instead, it affects how much menstrual fluid it can absorb. If your flow is heavy, you may need to change your pad much sooner than 8 hours, even if you're wearing a larger one.

As a general guide:

• Light flow: A normal or day pad is usually enough.
• Medium flow: A regular or slightly longer pad may feel more comfortable.
• Heavy flow: A long pad or extra-absorbent pad is often a better choice.
• Overnight: A night pad gives extra length and protection while you're sleeping.

The best thing to do is check your pad regularly and change it whenever it feels full, damp, or uncomfortable.

Thin pads aren't meant to be worn for less time just because they're thinner. They're simply designed to be less bulky while still absorbing the amount they're designed for. Vicki 💖

Morning💖

I completely understand why you feel that way! When you're going through puberty, it can sometimes seem as though girls have to deal with an awful lot, from breast development and periods to discharge, mood swings, and all the other changes that come with growing up.

And yes, some parts of being a girl can feel frustrating at times. But it's worth remembering that all those changes are happening because your body is developing in an amazing way. If you choose to one day, your body could even grow and carry a baby, which is something pretty incredible.

That said, boys don't get a completely free ride either. They go through their own challenges during puberty, even if they're not always as obvious. Many boys have to cope with:

• Voice breaking, which can feel embarrassing.
• Sudden growth spurts that can make them feel awkward or clumsy.
• Acne, often on the face, chest, and back.
• Increased body odour and sweating.
• Big emotional changes caused by hormones.
• Feeling pressure to look or act a certain way.

Sometimes boys don't talk about these things as much, so it can seem like they're having an easier time when they may actually be struggling too.

I think the truth is that puberty is tough for everyone, just in different ways. Girls and boys face different challenges, and neither has it easy all the time. It's one of the reasons I wrote my blog on Puberty and Boys below.

What Happens to Boys During Puberty? A Simple Guide for Girls

So the next time you're feeling fed up with periods, discharge, bras, or all the other things puberty brings, remember that you're not alone, and most of the boys around you are probably dealing with changes they're finding confusing too. Vicki 💖

Hi there 💖

Please try not to panic. When I talk about smelly discharge, I'm usually talking about a strong or unusual smell, not the mild scent that most discharge naturally has.

In fact, normal vaginal discharge often has a slight odour because it mixes with sweat, urine, and your body's natural bacteria. That doesn't mean anything is wrong.

That being said....you should be a little more concerned if you notice any of the following:

• A very strong or unpleasant smell that is different from usual.
• Discharge that looks clumpy, like cottage cheese.
• Itching, soreness, burning, or irritation around your vulva.
• Discharge that is an unusual colour, such as green or grey.

If none of those things apply to you, and your discharge has always had a slight smell, it's likely just your normal discharge.

The warm weather can also make you notice odours more because we all sweat more. Wearing clean cotton underwear, changing out of sweaty clothes after sports, and washing the outside of your vulva with plain water can help you stay comfortable. Avoid using scented washes or sprays, as these can sometimes cause irritation.

Most importantly, a little bit of odour is normal and doesn't automatically mean there's a problem. From what you've described, there's no reason to assume anything is wrong. Vicki 💖

Hi F 😝💖

Thank you so much for your message, and please don't worry, it's not confusing at all. Lots of young people have questions like this, especially during puberty, so you're definitely not alone.

What you're describing is actually very common. As you grow up, your brain and body go through lots of changes, and it's normal to start thinking about gender identity, sexuality, and who you are as a person. Sometimes those feelings can seem very clear, and other times they can feel a bit mixed up.

From what you've written, it sounds like you're sometimes wondering whether you'd rather be a boy, sometimes feeling happy being a girl, and sometimes feeling drawn to the idea of being non-binary. It's okay to have those thoughts. It doesn't mean you have to make any decisions right now.

One thing I'd like you to remember is that gender identity and sexual orientation are two separate things. Gender identity is about who you are, while sexual orientation is about who you might like or be attracted to. It can take time to understand both of those things, and that's perfectly normal.

My biggest piece of advice is to try not to put pressure on yourself to find the perfect label straight away. You don't have to decide today whether you're a girl, a boy, non-binary, or anything else. You also don't have to figure out exactly who you like right now. Many young people find that things become clearer as they get older, while others continue to discover new things about themselves. There's no right or wrong timeline.

for now, be kind to yourself. You don't need all the answers, and you don't need to rush. The most important thing is being yourself and giving yourself time to grow. Vicki 💖

Hi there 💖

First of all, I want you to know that there's nothing weird about what you're experiencing. Lots of girls start noticing their breasts developing around your age.

I do appreciate that it can feel a bit embarrassing when you're aware that your body is changing, especially when you're playing football with boys. But breast development is a completely normal part of growing up, and it doesn't mean you've done anything wrong or that you should feel self-conscious.

If you sometimes notice your nipples or breast shape showing through your football kit, there are a few things that may help you feel more comfortable:

• Try a lightly padded crop top or sports bra for a little extra coverage.
• Wear a vest top underneath your football shirt if you prefer.
• Look for sports bras with a thicker fabric or double layer at the front.
• Use nipple covers under your sports bra if you're mainly worried about your nipples showing through your top.

The most important thing is choosing whatever makes you feel confident and comfortable when you're playing. Your body is growing and changing exactly as it should, and many other girls your age are going through the same thing.

Remember, football is about having fun, developing your skills, and enjoying the game. Your breasts developing doesn't change what a brilliant player you are!

Take care and good luck with your football,

Vicki 💖

Yes, you could, firstly take a look at the image below and measure around your body in these three places, then send them over to me and I can give you a guide to what your bra size may be.