For discharge I would always recommend pantyliners, these are slimmer than a pad and ideal when capturing discharge, check out the Lil-Lets range of pantyliners, we even have teen liners, that are that little bit shorter and narrower for smaller bodies.

Friendships often get messy during puberty and early teens because emotions are on a roller coaster ride and people don’t always communicate clearly or kindly. Arguments can spiral quickly, and things get said that aren’t really about the original topic at all. That seems to be what happened here, the discussion stopped being about sport and turned into hurt feelings and defensiveness.

The simplest and safest way forward is this: send a brief, calm message. Don’t re‑argue the sport comparison and don’t list everything that went wrong. Something like “I think things got out of hand earlier and I didn’t mean for it to turn into a personal argument. I’d like us to let it go and move on if we can.” This opens the door to peace.

Friendships aren’t worth losing over a debate about sport, but it’s also okay to quietly notice how people speak to you when they’re angry. You did the right thing by going silent instead of saying something you’d regret, and you’re allowed to protect your peace. See how friends respond when you offer calm honesty. That will tell you a lot.

What you’re feeling is not just normal, it’s actually really special!

Being comfortable in your own body, including stretch marks, tummy rolls, thighs, and all the bits that make you you, shows a level of self‑respect that many people take years to learn. Stretch marks are incredibly common, especially during growth spurts, and having them doesn’t mean anything is “wrong”, they’re simply signs that your body has changed and adapted.

It’s also totally okay that you sometimes feel a bit self‑conscious. Confidence doesn’t mean loving every inch of yourself all the time, it means knowing your worth even on the days you wobble a little. The fact that you recognise you’re healthy and appreciate what your body does for you is such a strong, grounded way to think.

And honestly? Sharing this kind of message really matters. So many people grow up thinking they’re the only ones with stretch marks, soft tummies, or uneven bits, when actually, nearly everyone does. I really hope others read your words and feel encouraged to be gentler with their own bodies too.

Hi, to me, this doesn’t sound weird at all, lots of people your age feel exactly the same way. There’s no set timeline for knowing your sexuality, and at 12 your body, emotions, and friendships are all changing anyway. Some people have crushes early, some later, and some don’t feel anything much for a long while and all of that is completely normal.

It’s also okay not to have an answer yet. You don’t have to pick “gay” or “straight” or anything else just because your friends think they know. You’re allowed to say, “I’m still figuring it out,” or “I don’t really label myself right now.” Your identity doesn't have a deadline.

The most important thing is this: don’t rush yourself. As you grow, you’ll naturally start to notice who you feel drawn to romantically, emotionally, or not at all  and that’s when things often start to make sense. 

Hi, what your dealing with sounds very frustrating, but please understand this;   Someone can only “ruin your life” if they have power over you and that power usually comes from your reactions. A friend who bullies you, calls you names, turns people against you, or makes you feel scared to leave isn’t being a good friend. It’s okay to admit that something no longer feels safe or healthy.

If you are sure having a one-on-one chat with your friend can't resolve these issues, then you can try moving away. You don’t have to cause drama or officially “end” the friendship. The strongest move is to slowly step back, calmly and quietly:

• Spend a bit less time with her
• Share less personal stuff
• Stay polite, but don’t stay close

This way, you’re protecting yourself without creating a situation she can twist or exaggerate.

If she does try to be unkind or start drama, don’t engage. Walk away. Stay calm. Say nothing. People who rely on control and attention lose their power when they don’t get a reaction. You deserve friendships where you feel respected and happy, not anxious or miserable. 

34AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

Hi, puberty has certainly arrived for you and all of these changes you have noticed are very normal and nothing to be alarmed by. Why not read the blogs below for more advice on what to expect over the next few years.

What Is Puberty & How To Manage It?

Puberty & Intimate Hygiene: A Simple Guide for Girls

Growth Spurts & Growing Pains

Yes, sometimes discharge can appear sticky and even stringy, it's all very normal.

A lot of people who are new to periods feel a bit uncomfortable or put off by how period blood looks on a pad or toilet paper, so you’re definitely not alone. Try to remember that period blood is actually a good sign and shows your body is working exactly how it should.

A few things that can help are changing your pad every 3–4 hours, so there’s only a small amount of blood at a time. Some people also prefer to use tampons, as the blood stays inside the body and isn’t visible, which can make periods feel less overwhelming.

It often gets easier with time as you become more used to it.

If this is making you feel unwell or really upset, it might be time to sit down with your parents and let them know how it’s affecting you. Before you talk to them, or to a teacher try taking a few minutes to write down what’s troubling you and how it’s making you feel.

Doing this can help you organise your thoughts, reduce some of the emotion in the moment, and make it easier for them to understand exactly why you’re feeling this way.

What you’re describing could be romantic feelings, or it could be what I like to call a 'friend crush' when you really admire someone, think about them a lot, want to protect them, and love making them happy.

Try not to worry or overthink it too much. Feeling confused about emotions at this age is so normal, especially when you’re still discovering who you are and how you connect to other people. There’s no pressure to label anything right now.

Over time, your feelings will usually become clearer on their own and remember that whatever those feelings turn out to be is completely okay.

Hi! Yep, this is totally normal! When we have a crush, we often act differently around them. Some people show off, some go quiet, some suddenly forget how words work, it happens to everyone.

We all act a bit different around someone we like, and honestly? It’s kind of cute. As time goes on and you feel more relaxed, the real you will sneak back out naturally. Until then, don’t stress, your crush‑brain is just doing its thing.

I totally agree, it was a feature we had on the old website and it worked very well. It's definitely on our list of things to do in the future, but for now we are focusing on creating new blogs on puberty so girls like you have as much information as possible.

Hi, spotting is when you notice a small amount of bleeding (just a few drops) outside of your normal period time. It’s sometimes mistaken for a first period, but it’s actually different.

Spotting can happen for lots of reasons, like stress or changes in your body, and it’s a term we usually use for people who have already been having periods for a few years.

I do understand how alarming those first signs of discharge can look in your underwear, but it’s actually a really good thing during puberty. It helps keep the area clean and protected from infection.

Over the next few months, you’ll probably get used to it and notice that it can change in colour, texture, and how much there is from day to day... all of that is normal.

Wearing a pantyliner can really help and can give you extra confidence to get on with your day too!

Discharge is one of the main signs that your first period isn’t too far away. Everyone’s different though, and having discharge for anywhere from 6–12 months before your first period is completely normal.

Hi, I understand exactly how you feel. Lots of us try something on, love how it looks, and then suddenly feel full of doubt when it’s time to share that look with the world. You’re definitely not alone in feeling this way.

What I can tell you is that having your own sense of style is really special. It says a lot about who you are. Taking those brave steps to wear what you love outside your comfort zone might feel scary at first, but it does get easier with time. Sometimes you’ll get lovely compliments, and even if you don’t, people will slowly start to see you as someone with a unique look and that’s something they often grow to admire even more.

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Hi, 32AA is your bra size based on these measurements supplied, for a more accurate reading, please send over your over bust measurement.

A first period can happen anytime between about 8 and 18, and lots of people get theirs around age 12, so that’s completely normal. If your breasts have been developing for a while, that can be a sign that your body is getting closer to starting periods, but everyone’s timing is different and there’s no rush or “right” age.

At your age, your body is going through lots of changes because of hormones. Breasts can be very sensitive, so touching or noticing them can feel tickly or make you feel giggly, and that can be surprising. Those feelings don’t mean you’ve done anything wrong, it’s just your body growing and getting used to changes.