Hi ❤️

If your breast is extremely sore, hurts when you move, and you've noticed discharge coming from the nipple, I'd really recommend telling your mum, dad, or the person who looks after you as soon as you can.

It may be something simple, such as a hormonal change related to puberty or your period, but pain, redness, warmth, swelling, or nipple discharge are symptoms that should be checked by a doctor, especially if the pain is severe.

Please don't panic. Breast problems in teens are often harmless and can usually be treated once a doctor knows what's causing them. However, because you're in quite a bit of pain and you've noticed liquid coming out, it's important not to ignore it.

In the meantime, try to avoid pressing or squeezing the area, and wear a comfortable, supportive bra or crop top if that feels better.

Please speak to a trusted adult today and ask them to arrange a GP appointment. If you develop a fever, feel unwell, or the pain becomes much worse, let an adult know straight away.

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

There really isn't a "normal" bra size for a 13-year-old. Everyone develops at their own pace, and breast size is influenced by things like genetics, body shape, and when puberty starts.

A 30E would generally be considered a fuller bust size on a smaller band, but that doesn't mean there's anything unusual or wrong about it. Some girls are still wearing crop tops or beginner bras at 13, while others may need larger cup sizes. Both are completely normal.

Try not to compare yourself to your friends. Breasts come in all shapes and sizes, and there is no 'right' size to be at any age. Puberty can continue for several years, so your body may change quite a bit as you grow.

If your bras feel comfortable and supportive, that's far more important than what the label says. And remember, a bra size is just a measurement, not a reflection of who you are or how mature you should be.

Be kind to yourself. Your body is developing in its own unique way, and that's something to celebrate. ❤️

Vicki ❤️

Hi 💜

As you haven't told me exactly what problems you're having with your bladder, it's a little difficult for me to give specific advice.

If you're having bladder problems regularly, such as needing to pee very often, struggling to hold on, having accidents, pain when you pee, or anything else that's worrying you, I'd definitely suggest having a chat with your mum, dad, or the person who looks after you and asking if they can book an appointment with your GP.

Please don't feel embarrassed. Bladder problems are actually quite common, and doctors talk about them all the time. Once they know what's causing the issue, they can usually suggest ways to help or treatment if needed.

In the meantime, make sure you're drinking plenty of water and try not to avoid using the toilet when you need to go.

You've done the right thing by asking for advice. 

Vicki 💜

Hi Belle 💖

Discovering you have wavy hair can take a bit of trial and error, so don't worry if your first attempt didn't turn out how you hoped!

For wavy hair, one of the biggest mistakes is using too much product. Mousse, leave-in conditioner, and styling gel can all be great, but if you use a lot, your hair can end up looking heavy, stiff, or crunchy instead of soft and wavy.

Try using just a small amount of product and focus it on the mid-lengths and ends of your hair. After washing, gently scrunch your hair upwards with your hands to encourage the waves. Then either let it air dry naturally or use a diffuser on a low heat setting if you have one.

Another tip is to avoid touching your hair too much while it's drying, as this can make waves look frizzy or lose their shape.

Remember, wavy hair is unique and what works for one person might not work for another. It may take a few attempts to find the routine that gives you the waves you love!

And honestly, having naturally wavy hair gives you lots of options. You can wear it natural, enhance the waves, or style it for more defined curls depending on how you're feeling that day. 😊

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

No, this isn't bad at all. In fact, it's very common.

Think of breasts as sisters, not twins. One will often look slightly different from the other. They might be different sizes, sit a little differently, or have areolas (the darker skin around the nipple) that vary slightly in colour or shape.

During puberty, when your breasts are still growing and developing, it's especially normal for one breast to develop a bit earlier than the other. This can make the areola on one side look slightly darker, larger, or more noticeable than the other.

As long as this is something you've always had, or it's happened gradually as you've been developing, it's usually nothing to worry about.

From what you've described, a slightly darker areola on one breast is a completely normal part of how bodies develop. ❤️

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

I can understand why you're confused, especially when your experience seems so different from your cousin's.

As far as current research shows, PCOS (or PMOS as it is now called) doesn't directly cause breasts to shrink or grow. However, PCOS can sometimes be linked to changes in weight and hormone levels, which may affect the amount of fatty tissue in the breasts. Because breasts are made up largely of fat, their size can naturally change over time.

It's also worth remembering that breast size rarely stays the same throughout life. Weight changes, age, hormones, contraception, pregnancy, and other lifestyle factors can all affect bra size. So it's quite possible that both your breast size and your cousin's have changed for reasons that aren't directly caused by PCOS itself.

The fact that you were previously a DD/E cup and now fit a large C or small D cup doesn't necessarily mean PCOS has caused your breasts to shrink. Likewise, your cousin's increase in cup size doesn't prove PCOS causes breast growth.

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

With your measurements, I wouldn't focus too much on a specific bra size. Bra sizes are only a guide, and everyone's body develops at their own pace.

What's most important is finding something that feels comfortable, fits well, and gives you the support you need. If you're looking for a first bra, a soft crop top, bralette, or beginner bra can be a great place to start.

Try not to worry about the number or letter on the label. The best bra is the one that makes you feel comfortable and confident. 💕

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

It can feel disappointing when you like someone and they don't seem to notice you, but try not to be too hard on yourself. Sometimes people are simply shy, distracted, or haven't had the chance to get to know you yet.

Do you know a smile can go a long way towards getting you noticed? It doesn't have to be a huge grin. Just a few seconds of eye contact and a friendly smile can help this boy see that you're approachable and open to chatting.

If you get the opportunity, try saying hello after church, joining in group activities, or starting a simple conversation about something you have in common. The best relationships often begin with friendship rather than romance.

Remember, you can't make someone like you, but you can let your personality shine. Be yourself, be kind, and focus on building a genuine connection. Who knows? Once you've got to know each other better, you might become great friends, and friendship is often the perfect foundation for something more in the future.

Most importantly, don't feel you need to change who you are to get someone's attention. The right person will appreciate you for being you. ❤️

Vicki ❤️

Hi, yes you can request a free Li-lets teens sample from Lil-Lets, simply click on the Contact Us tab and enter your details, be sure to leave your name and address and confirm that as you are under the age of 16 you have your parents permission to request a sample.

Hi ❤️ Yes, absolutely! 💕

Many people think you only inherit breast size from your mum's side of the family, but genetics come from both sides of your family, so traits linked to breast development can be inherited from your dad's side too.

That said, genetics are only part of the story. Breast size is influenced by a combination of genetics, body shape, hormones, and natural development. This means that even if the women in your family are a certain bra size, it doesn't automatically mean you'll be the same.

It's also important to remember that if you're still going through puberty, your breasts may not have finished developing yet. Breast development can continue throughout the teen years and sometimes into the late teens or even early twenties. It's completely normal for their size and shape to change over time.

Try not to spend too much time comparing yourself to family members or friends. Every body develops differently, and your breasts will grow into the size and shape that's right for you. 💖

Breast size is partly genetic, but your body is unique, so you won't necessarily end up exactly the same as anyone else in your family.

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️ Yes, this is very normal. 💕

Some girls have a very light first period, while others have a heavier one. There is a huge range of what is considered normal when you're just starting your periods.

In fact, during the first few years of menstruation, you may notice that your periods are different from month to month. Your flow could be:

• Light one month and heavier the next
• Shorter or longer than usual
• Bright red, dark red, or brown in colour
• More or less noticeable than previous periods

This happens because your body and hormones are still settling into their own pattern.

Try not to compare your periods with your friends' experiences. Every girl's period journey is unique, and a light first period is just as normal as a heavier one.

As long as you're feeling well, there's usually no reason to worry. Over time, you'll start to learn what's normal for your body, even if that changes a bit from cycle to cycle.

Light periods, heavy periods, and changing flows are all common when you've recently started menstruating. ❤️

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

Not at all. 💕

Having scars from self-harm does not make you rude, unwelcome, or undeserving of being in a church.

Churches are places where people come with all kinds of experiences, struggles, worries, and hurts. Nobody has to be "perfect" to walk through the door. In fact, many faith communities believe that everyone is worthy of compassion, support, and belonging, regardless of what they have been through.

Whether your scars are visible or covered up is completely your choice. You don't owe anyone an explanation, and you shouldn't feel ashamed of them. They are part of your story, but they do not define who you are.

If you're worried about what others might think, remember that most people are far more focused on their own thoughts and prayers than on noticing someone else's scars. And if someone does notice them, that doesn't mean you've done anything wrong.

You are welcome in a church exactly as you are.

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

Firstly, please don't worry. 💕

Even though your periods have been arriving at roughly the same time for the last 5 to 6 months, at 11 years old it's completely normal for periods to be a bit unpredictable.

When you first start your periods, your body is still figuring out its own rhythm. This means there may be times when your period is:

• A little late
• Early
• Heavier than usual
• Lighter than usual
• Shorter or longer than previous periods

This doesn't usually mean that anything is wrong. It simply means your body is still settling into a menstrual cycle that works for you.

Over the next few years, you'll probably notice your periods becoming more regular, but it's very common for cycles to vary when you're young and have only recently started menstruating.

Also, just so you know, a menstrual cycle can normally be anywhere from about 21 to 34 days long, and younger teens can sometimes have even more variation while their hormones are settling down.

My advice is to try not to stress about it and keep track of your periods on a calendar. If your period still doesn't arrive after a long time, or if you're worried about any other symptoms, have a chat with a parent, carer, school nurse, or GP for reassurance.

For now, though, what you've described sounds like a very normal part of the early years of having periods. ❤️

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

I'm glad to hear you have both styles in your wardrobe! Honestly, my biggest piece of advice would be to worry less about what everyone else is wearing and focus more on what makes you feel comfortable and confident.

Fashion trends come and go. Some middle school girls love oversized hoodies, baggy jeans and relaxed fits, while others prefer fitted tops, leggings and more tailored outfits. Lots of people mix the two, like wearing a fitted top with baggy jeans or an oversized sweatshirt with fitted bottoms.

Instead of trying to copy a particular style, why not become your own fashion icon? 💕 Confidence is the best accessory you can wear, and people are often drawn to those who feel comfortable being themselves.

Try experimenting with different outfits and notice which ones make you feel:

• Comfortable
• Confident
• Happy
• Like yourself

Remember, you don't need to fit into one fashion category. Having both fitted and oversized clothes gives you plenty of options, depending on your mood and the occasion.

And who knows? Instead of following trends, you might be the one setting them! ✨

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

Thank you for your question, and please don't worry, lots of teens have questions about body hair and what's normal during puberty.

One thing to remember is that how much or how little body hair someone removes is a completely personal choice. Some people choose to remove some body hair, some remove more, and others don't remove any at all. There is no "correct" amount, and there's definitely no pressure to do what anyone else is doing.

At 15, it's important to know that pubic hair is a normal and healthy part of puberty, and there is absolutely no need to remove it unless you personally want to. Many teens and adults simply leave it alone, while others may choose to tidy hair that might be visible outside their underwear or swimwear. The choice is yours.

Rather than worrying about what "most people" do, try to focus on what feels comfortable and right for you. Everybody's preferences are different, and social media can sometimes make it seem like there's one way to look when that simply isn't true.

Your body hair, your choice. The most important thing is that you're making decisions based on what makes you feel comfortable and confident, not because you feel pressured by trends or other people's opinions.

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

That's actually a really interesting question, and it highlights something important about puberty: everyone's journey is different.

Some girls get more spots and acne than their friends, while others might notice things like growth spurts, breast development, or even their first period earlier or later. There isn't a "right" timeline for puberty, and it's completely normal for friends to develop differently.

Spots happen because hormonal changes during puberty can make the skin produce more oil. Some people are naturally more prone to acne than others, which is why your best friend might have more spots than you, even if you're the same age.

Try not to compare yourself too much to your friends. Everyone's body develops at its own pace, and differences are a normal part of growing up.

If your friend is feeling self-conscious about their spots, a gentle skincare routine and speaking to a parent, carer, or pharmacist can help. Most importantly, remind them that spots are incredibly common during puberty and don't last forever.

Puberty is a unique journey for everyone, and no two people experience it in exactly the same way. 💕

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

It sounds like the SEAG stress is really getting to you at the moment, and that's completely understandable. Two months can feel like a long time when there's so much pressure, especially when you really want to get into a good school.

You’re already doing lots of brilliant things for your mental health, like journalling, getting outside, walking, and listening to music. A few extra things that might help are:

💜 Having some SEAG-free time every day where you don't revise or think about the test.

💜 Talking to a parent, teacher, or trusted adult about how pressured you're feeling.

💜 Writing down your worries before bed so they're not all swirling around in your head.

💜 Focusing on what you need to do today, rather than worrying about the exam itself.

Most importantly, remember that your worth is not defined by a test score. The SEAG is important, but it doesn't measure how kind, funny, creative, or amazing you are as a person.

And thank you for telling me you have the Lil-Lets teens Starter Teen Kit, that made me smile! 😊

Be kind to yourself ❤️

Vicki ❤️

Hi, and you are most welcome, enjoy the rest of your day. 

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

If your doctor has confirmed that you're getting a yeast infection every time you're on your period, I would definitely recommend going back and having another chat with them. They may want to investigate a little further to find out why it's happening so regularly and discuss ways to help prevent it.

However, if you haven't been diagnosed and you've assumed it's a yeast infection because you're feeling sore, itchy, or irritated during your period, it might not be an infection at all. Sometimes period pads, moisture, or friction can irritate the delicate skin around the vulva, especially if you're new to periods or have sensitive skin.

Many teens find that using a softer period pad, such as the Lil-Lets Teens range, can help reduce irritation. They're designed to be shorter and narrower for smaller underwear and can feel more comfortable during your period.

I'd suggest having a chat with a parent, carer, or trusted adult about what's been happening. If you genuinely think you're getting a yeast infection every month, it's important to book an appointment with your GP so they can check what's going on and recommend the best treatment.

In the meantime, try not to suffer in silence. Itching, soreness, and irritation are common concerns, and there are ways to make periods more comfortable. ❤️

Vicki ❤️