Hi 💛 firstly, everything you’ve described (the nervous laughing, the crying, struggling to speak when emotions take over) is so common at your age, especially with parents, because those are the situations where feelings run strongest.

Let's break down your concerns one by one:

🌼 About the laughing and smirking
That nervous giggle thing? It’s actually your brain getting overwhelmed and not knowing how to react, it’s not you being disrespectful. It happens a lot during puberty when your emotional and thinking parts of your brain are still learning how to work together. It will get easier over time. A little trick that helps in the moment:

• press your tongue to the roof of your mouth
• slow your breathing (in for 4, out for 6)
• focus on keeping your face relaxed

These may sound like small things, but they can really steady you.

💧 About crying so easily
Crying isn’t immaturity, it’s your body releasing stress. The reason it happens more with your dad is probably because that’s where you feel the most pressure or intensity. When you feel it building:

• try saying “I need a minute” and step away if you can. Being able to pause instead of pushing through tears? That’s actually maturity.
• write down what you wanted to say afterwards (this really helps you feel heard, even if you couldn’t say it in the moment)
• recognising your emotions instead of fighting them💛

💄 And about the makeup
This one’s tricky, I know. Sometimes parents react strongly because makeup feels like a sign their child is growing up, and that can be hard for them. It’s not really about the blush, it’s about them adjusting. So, a good middle ground might be:

• keeping it light and natural (like you’re already doing)
• showing him what you’re wearing so it doesn’t feel like a “shock”
• maybe agreeing on when/where it’s okay (like weekends or holidays)

🫶 My final little reminder
You are not too emotional, too childish, or doing anything wrong. You’re learning how to handle big feelings in real time, which is one of the hardest parts of growing up. Give yourself a bit more kindness, you're doing better than you think 💛 

Your friend really does have a strange sense of humour, and you have a choice - you either accept this and try not to let it get to you, or do as we have discussed previously and just distance yourself from her slowly. Yes, your dad has a point there really is no need to have a massive fall out, but your feelings are valid and if she makes you sad, angry or uncomfortable it's best to let this friendship run its course.

Hi 💛 yes, it’s completely normal not to have your period at 13—there’s a really wide range of when it can start, usually anywhere between about 8 and 16 (and sometimes even a little later), so you are absolutely still within a healthy, normal timeline.

It's a bit of a myth that our periods start at the same time as family members, so even though your mum got hers around 13–14, it doesn’t mean your body will follow the same pattern because everyone develops differently and at their own pace. Your period will come when your body is ready, and that timing is unique to you, so try not to compare yourself to others, there’s nothing wrong with you at all, you’re just on your own path 💛

Hi 💛 yes, that soft light hair you’re noticing is completely normal, lots of people have it, it’s often called “peach fuzz,” and during puberty it can seem more noticeable because your hormones are changing. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong, and for most people it either settles down or just becomes something you stop noticing over time.

I know it can feel a bit embarrassing, especially if you think you’re the only one, but you really aren’t, bodies grow and change differently for everyone. If it ever really knocks your confidence there are gentle ways to manage it, but honestly, it’s such a normal part of growing up and nothing to be ashamed of at all 💛

Hi 💛 it’s completely normal to feel like this, especially when it seems like everyone around you is developing faster, but honestly, there is no set timeline your body has to follow.

Breast development can be influenced by your own unique puberty journey, your genetics on both sides of your family, and your natural body shape, so comparing yourself to friends won’t give you the full picture. At 14, it’s still very early and things can change more than you expect over the next few years, so try not to worry that this is how things will always be.

In the meantime, if your bra feels too big, you might feel much more comfortable in a soft crop top or bralette instead of focusing on cup sizes, because sizing is only ever a guide anyway. And just remember, having a bigger bust isn’t “better,” it doesn’t make someone more grown-up or more confident, and it definitely doesn’t define who you are, you’re already enough exactly as you are 💛

Hi, you don’t have to wear pantyliners if you have discharge it’s totally up to what feels comfortable for you 💛 discharge is a normal, healthy part of your body, so if it’s light and not bothering you, just changing your underwear daily is absolutely fine, but if it ever feels a bit damp, noticeable, or you just want extra confidence during the day, panty liners can be really handy they’re just there to make you feel more comfortable, not something you’re required to use, so honestly it’s all about what makes you feel best and most at ease 😊

Hi! First of all, I’m really glad you asked this question, that takes courage, even if it feels “mild” to you. And just so you know, your feelings are valid no matter how big or small they seem.

Puberty can feel like a total emotional rollercoaster 🎢 hormones, school pressure, friendships, expectations… it can all pile up and leave you feeling stressed or low. But even if hormones play a part, that doesn’t make it any less real or important. So, let’s break this down in a way that actually helps you 💭

💛 You can’t “switch off” anxiety—but you can manage it. Anxiety is your brain trying to protect you, even if it’s overreacting a bit. Instead of trying to stop it completely, try to calm it down:

•  Breathe slowly – in for 4 seconds, out for 6 (this really does help your body settle)
• Ground yourself – name 5 things you can see, 4 you can touch, 3 you can hear
• Take little breaks from social media if it’s overwhelming you

🌱 For those low days - when you feel a bit down, even simple things can help shift your mood:

• Write things down, thoughts, worries, even random feelings
• Get outside, even for 10 minutes
• Listen to music that matches your mood first, then slowly lift it
• Do one small thing (homework, tidying, texting a friend) because small wins matter

🧡 Please don’t deal with this alone - You deserve support, always. Talking to someone you trust can make a huge difference, even if it feels awkward at first:

• a parent or family member
• a friend
• a teacher or school staff member

You don’t have to have the “perfect words” even just “I’ve not been feeling great lately” is enough to start.

So many teens feel exactly like this at times and it can get better with support and small steps. You’re doing really well just by expressing this. I’m proud of you 💛
Always here when you need to talk xx

First of all, please don’t apologise, you’ve got a lot going on right now, and it makes sense it’s all weighing on you. That feeling of “why is everyone else already on summer?” is so real, especially when you’re reading sites like Girls’ Life.

But those web pages are designed to look upbeat and perfect, they’re basically a highlight reel, not real life. You’re in the final stretch with exams, not the relaxing part yet and that doesn’t mean your summer is worse, just that it’s starting a little later.

About your period - what you’re experiencing is actually really normal. Stress (like exams), being unwell, and changes to your routine can all delay it, so a longer cycle this month isn’t unusual. It might show up during exams (annoying timing, I know), but you can handle that, just be a bit prepared so it doesn’t catch you off guard.

And as for your summer? 57 days might feel shorter, but it’s still a solid break, plus you’ve got Malaysia in August, which is something genuinely exciting to look forward to. Your timeline is just different, not worse.

When you do get into your summer, you could try:

• Planning a few low-pressure meetups or chill days with friends
• Starting a small project (writing, drawing, journaling, or even a reading list)
• Giving your room a refresh or sorting through clothes for a little reset
• Making a mini “summer wishlist” so you’ve got things to look forward to
• Letting yourself properly relax after exams without feeling guilty

You’re doing exactly what you need to be doing right now, even if it doesn’t feel fun yet. This part is temporary and your break is coming. You’ve got this ✨

Hi💛 firstly, try not to worry, you’re definitely not alone in this. Even a couple of years after your first period, it’s really common for cycles to become irregular again, especially during your early to mid‑teens. That’s because your body is still growing and developing, periods you see...aren’t the end of puberty, so hormones can still fluctuate quite a bit. Things like an 81‑day gap or your period being late by 10 days can happen at this stage, and while it feels worrying, it’s usually still within the range of normal.

The changes you’ve noticed with your skin are very likely linked to those same hormones too, so breakouts can happen even if you’ve never had them before. It can help to keep pads or tampons with you so you’re not caught out, and even wearing a pantyliner can give you a bit of peace of mind. That said, if your cycles stay very irregular for a long time, or periods are regularly very long or heavy, it’s always okay to check in with a doctor just for reassurance. But from your msg, it seems like your body is still figuring things out, and it will settle over time 💛

This is really is unpleasant and unfortunately very common, even though it doesn’t make it any easier to deal with 💛 Many girls and women get cramps in the days before their period starts because the muscles around the uterus begin to contract. It’s uncomfortable, but there are ways to ease it a bit. One helpful thing is gentle movement...I know it’s probably the last thing you feel like doing, but walking around, stretching, or even a little dance at home can actually relax those muscles and reduce the pain.

You can also try using a hot water bottle or heat pack, which can be really soothing, and make sure you’re keeping hydrated. The main thing is to be kind to yourself, rest when you need to, but don’t be afraid to move a little too. Over time, you’ll find what works best for your body 💛

This is such a tricky situation, and it makes total sense you feel stressed 💛 On one hand, you shouldn’t have to invite someone who has been unkind to you, and your feelings about that are completely valid. At the same time, I can see your mum is trying to keep things calm and prevent the situation from escalating, especially since the invitation has already been given. She’s also thinking about kindness and how it feels to be excluded, even though, like you said, the situation isn’t exactly the same.

Because she’s already invited, it might be best just for this one time to still include her, especially if your parents will be there and things will feel more controlled. Then, going forward, you can gently create distance, be civil like your mum said, but not close and that way it won’t feel like a big or sudden thing if she’s not invited to future events.

Most importantly, your birthday should still feel like your day, so focus on the people who do make you feel happy and safe 💛

Hi 💛 this is actually really common, so please don’t worry, you’re definitely not alone.

Using tampons can take a bit of practice, and it’s important to go at your own pace. One helpful tip is to try on your heavier flow days, as this makes insertion easier. Start with the lowest absorbency (“lite”) and make sure you’re as relaxed as possible - tension can make it feel uncomfortable. You could try standing with your knees bent or hovering over the toilet, and gently guide the tampon in at a slight angle toward your lower back.

It might also help to take a breath or even give a small cough as you insert, as this can relax the muscles slightly. If it’s really painful or just not going in, don’t force it, stop and try again another time. There’s absolutely no rush to use tampons, and it’s okay if your body just needs more time to get used to it 💛

Why not read our How To Insert A Tampon Guide below.

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Hey Phoebe‑L💛 

It makes sense you feel sad, being told not to express something important to you hurts. Your theriotypes are a creative, meaningful way of exploring who you are, and that matters.

However, at the same time, your mum might be trying to keep a balance so it doesn’t take over everything or affect other parts of your life. It could help to show you’re willing to meet in the middle like keeping up with daily responsibilities while still having small, private ways to express yourself (drawing, writing, imagining).

Listening to your mums views doesn’t mean giving up who you are, it just means showing respect so she’s more likely to listen back. You could calmly explain how it makes you feel and why it’s important, while also showing you understand her worries.

And about S being mean, that’s not okay at all, and it’s not your fault. Stick close to people like J who treat you kindly (yay 😊), and remember you deserve respect and space to be yourself while finding that balance 💛

Hi, you can share anything you want with me and if I can answer I will.

Hi, what you’re describing is completely normal 😊  not weird at all!

At around 13–14, your body often shows those exact signs before a first period (breast development, discharge, body hair, growth spurt). All of that means your body is getting ready, and your first period could come soon, but there isn’t an exact timeline. For some people it follows soon after these changes, for others it can still take a bit longer, and both are totally fine.

It’s actually a really good idea to start carrying a pad with you now, just in case. You don’t need to panic about it happening suddenly, but being prepared will help you feel calmer and more in control. You could keep one in your school bag or a small pouch so you’re not worrying when you’re out and you can always ask a friend, teacher, or use school supplies if needed. You're doing exactly the right thing by thinking ahead 👍

Firstly, can I just say how much growth you’ve shown? The way you described that shift from obsession → using it as motivation → realizing the strength was yours all along… that’s genuinely a big emotional step. A lot of people never get to that level of self-awareness, so don’t brush past it.

The real decision in front of you now is about protecting the progress you’ve already made. From what you’ve described, he hasn’t shown clear interest, and while that can feel confusing, it’s actually a kind of answer in itself. What matters more is that you already proved you can move on, you built confidence, created a fuller life, and stopped depending on him for how you feel. This moment is just testing that progress, not undoing it. The healthiest step now is to consciously close the door again: reduce how much he comes up in conversations with your family, gently ask them not to mention him, and keep your focus on the life you’ve been building rather than reopening something that never really began.

Letting go here isn’t “missing your chance,” it’s choosing clarity and self-respect over getting pulled back into uncertainty. The pattern that’s kept past crushes lingering wasn’t lack of opportunity, it was staying emotionally hooked on the unknown. You don’t need to chase an answer from him to move forward; you already have enough information to know that this isn’t something actively developing. By stepping away now, you’re not losing something real, you’re reinforcing the stronger, more grounded version of yourself who doesn’t wait around for mixed signals and doesn’t need anyone’s attention to feel secure.

If you’re thinking about using tampons for a holiday, it's a great idea to plan ahead 💛

My top tip is to try them a month or two before your trip, so you can get used to them at home without any pressure. It often takes a little practice at first, and that’s completely normal.

I’d suggest starting with a “lite” or lowest absorbency tampon, as these are smaller and easier to insert. You can also wear a pantyliner as backup for extra confidence. As you get more comfortable and learn what works for your body, you can move up to regular or super absorbency if needed, depending on your flow. Take your time, there’s no rush, and it should feel comfortable once it’s in properly 💛

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It sounds like you’re a really kind and thoughtful friend to E, and that’s such a lovely thing 💛 A good friend doesn’t have to fix everything or have all the answers, they’re there to listen, support, and care. The best thing you can do right now is be someone she can talk to, someone who makes her feel safe, and also someone who can bring a bit of lightness to her day when things feel heavy.

At the same time, it’s important to remember that some of what she’s going through, like family disagreements or personal identity, isn’t something you need to take on or get involved in. Those are bigger situations for trusted adults to help with. Your role is just to be her friend: listen, be kind, and encourage her to talk to someone she trusts if things feel serious. That balance keeps you supportive without it becoming too much for you 💛

Hi Poppy 💛 thanks for reaching out. First of all, try not to worry, periods can be quite unpredictable during your teens, even if they’ve seemed regular before. Your body is still developing, and hormones can shift from month to month, which can make your period come earlier, later, or sometimes be missed.

I know it can feel frustrating not knowing when it’s going to arrive, especially if you usually get it early. A helpful tip is to carry a small period kit with you (pads or tampons) so you’re prepared, and you could wear a pantyliner for peace of mind so you don’t get caught out💛

Hi💖

First of all I’m genuinely so proud of you for wanting to look after yourself. Starting puberty can feel like a lot, but building a simple self-care routine early on is such a great step 🌸

And here’s the best part: you absolutely don’t need to spend loads of money to take care of yourself.

Let’s keep it simple, affordable, and effective, you don’t need fancy brands,  honestly, supermarket own brands can be just as good. It’s more about consistency than price.

Here’s a really easy starter routine:
🧴 Daily basics:

• Face wash (morning & night) A gentle one is perfect - Aldi’s Lacura range is a great affordable option (very similar to Simple).
• Antiperspirant - This is important! It helps control sweat (deodorant only covers smell, it doesn’t stop wetness).
• Body wash or shower gel - Try something not too heavily perfumed, especially for sensitive areas.
• Moisturiser - A light one for your face and a basic one for your body helps keep skin soft and healthy.

🌸 Extra little bits that help:

• Pant liners - not skincare but these really can help you feel fresh and manage natural discharge (which is totally normal, by the way!).
• Clean clothes & underwear daily - Sounds simple, but it makes a big difference to how you feel.
• Drink water + sleep well - again not “products”, but honestly two of the best self-care habits you can have 💧

During puberty, things like sweat, oily skin, and discharge increase  that’s completely normal, not “dirty” or something to feel embarrassed about. Your body is just growing and changing.

Trust me you don’t need a long, complicated routine. A few simple, affordable habits done every day will do so much more than expensive products you use once in a while. 💕