Hi 💙

It's completely understandable to feel sad about going into your last year of primary school, especially when you've had such a happy time there and have made lots of wonderful memories with your friends and teachers.

Try not to focus too much on what will happen 12 months from now. Instead, put your energy into enjoying the year ahead. You still have a whole year of fun, learning, school trips, special events, and time with your friends. There are so many happy moments still to come.

Remember, you're not the only one feeling this way. Lots of people feel a bit nervous, excited, and sad all at the same time when they're getting closer to secondary school. That's completely normal.

Your teachers will spend the year helping you get ready for the move to secondary school, so you won't be expected to figure it all out on your own. As the months go by, you'll learn more about what to expect, meet new people, and start to feel more confident about the change.

Right now, your job is simply to enjoy Year 6, make lots of memories, and have fun with your friends. Secondary school might seem a little scary at the moment, but for many, it turns out to be an exciting adventure with new opportunities, new subjects, and new friendships.

Take one day at a time. You have lots to look forward to, and there's no rush to worry about next year just yet. Vicki 💙

Hi ❤️

It's completely normal to feel nervous about getting your first period, but often the thought of it is much scarier than the reality. Many girls find that once their first period arrives, it's much easier to manage than they imagined.

One of the best things you can do is be prepared. A simple period kit with a few period pads, a spare pair of underwear, and perhaps some wipes can help you feel more confident when you're at school or out with friends.

Your first period won't suddenly change who you are. You'll still enjoy the same hobbies, wear the same clothes, and be the same person you've always been. Periods are simply a normal part of puberty and growing up.

If you'd like to feel even more prepared, take a look at the blogs on the Lil-Lets Teens Hub. Learning a little about periods beforehand can help take away some of the fear and make you feel much more confident about what to expect.

Vicki ❤️

You are most welcome and I am always happy to answer your questions. Vicki❤️

Hi ❤️

Getting your first period can feel like a huge change, but I promise it doesn't mean that everything about you is going to change overnight. You're still the same person you were before your period started.

Lots of people worry that periods will make them moody, angry, or rude to their parents, but that doesn't happen to everyone. You may find that your moods stay much the same, especially as you've described yourself as calm and easy-going already.

You also don't need to worry about suddenly having to give up the things you love. You can still enjoy your favourite shoes, hobbies, sports, and activities. Having a period doesn't mean you have to become more grown-up overnight or stop being yourself.

It's great that you already have period pads and pantyliners. Pads are usually better for when your flow is heavier, while pantyliners can be useful when your period is very light or coming to an end.

As for PE, many people continue to run, play sports, and join in with all their usual activities while on their period. Some people get cramps, but not everyone does. If you do experience discomfort, there are ways to manage it, and you can always speak to a parent, teacher, or school nurse if you're worried.

Be kind to yourself over the next few months as your body gets used to having periods. It's a new experience, and it's completely normal to have questions. Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

Thank you so much for your lovely message. It truly means the world to me to hear that this page has been helpful for you and so many others.

I genuinely believe I have the best job. Every day, I get the opportunity to help people who have questions about puberty, periods, body changes, relationships, and all the other things that can sometimes feel confusing, embarrassing, or worrying to talk about. No question is ever silly, and I love being able to provide a safe space where people can ask anonymously and get the information and reassurance they need.

I'm also delighted that you enjoy reading other people's questions. Sometimes it can be comforting to realise that many of us share the same worries and experiences.

Thank you again for taking the time to write such a kind message. Knowing that the advice and support offered here makes a difference is incredibly rewarding. Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

That's a really good observation, and you're absolutely right.

Lots of people use the word "vagina" to describe all of the female genitals, even though anatomically that's not correct. The vulva is the name for the external parts you can see, including the labia, clitoris, urethral opening, and vaginal opening. The vagina is the internal muscular tube that connects the vulva to the cervix.

Because the word "vagina" is so commonly used in everyday conversation, you'll often hear people, and sometimes even healthcare professionals, use it as a general term when speaking informally. However, when discussing anatomy, health, or puberty, it can be helpful to know and use the correct terms.

Personally, I think it's great that you're learning the proper names for different body parts. Knowing the correct anatomical terms can make it easier to understand your body, ask questions, and explain any health concerns clearly if you ever need to speak to a doctor or nurse.

So while many people do say "vagina" when they mean the whole area, you're correct that the more accurate term for the external genital area is the vulva.

Well done for taking an interest in how your body works and for asking such thoughtful questions! Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

It sounds as though you're thinking a lot about your next smear test, but I'd gently encourage you not to put too much pressure on yourself about it right now.

Cervical screening isn't something most people have regularly. In the UK, it's usually offered every five years for those aged 25 to 49 if their results are normal, so your next appointment is still a long way off.

When the time does come, it's perfectly reasonable to tell the nurse that you found your previous test uncomfortable and ask her to explain what she's doing as she goes along. Healthcare professionals are very used to supporting nervous patients, and nobody will think badly of you for asking questions or needing reassurance.

For now, though, I'd try not to spend too much time worrying about what you might need to say or do at an appointment that is years away. A lot can change between now and then, and you may feel very differently when the time comes.

Try to focus on the present rather than imagining future health worries. You've had the screening that was recommended, and that's the important thing. Vicki ❤️

Yes, this is on my list of blogs to create.

Hi ❤️ Sharing how you feel about your sexuality is a very personal decision, and there is no right age or deadline for coming out. Some people tell their family when they're young, while others wait until they're older and feel more confident about their feelings. Both choices are completely okay.

It sounds like you and your friend are doing a great job of supporting each other, and that's really important. However, just because your friend may decide to come out soon doesn't mean that you have to do the same. Everyone's journey is different.

If your friend wants to come out because she'd like more freedom to dress in a way that feels right for her, that's her choice. But you don't need a specific reason to come out, and you also don't need to come out simply because someone else is doing it.

The most important thing is that you feel comfortable, safe, and ready. If right now you're happy with only your best friend knowing, that's perfectly fine. There is no prize for coming out sooner, and there is no problem with waiting until the time feels right.

Puberty is a time when lots of young people are getting to know themselves better, and it's okay if you're still figuring things out. Don't let anyone pressure you into sharing something so personal before you're ready.

Trust yourself. When the time feels right, you'll know. And if that time isn't now, that's okay too. Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

Thank you for your question. Everyone develops at their own pace, and it's completely normal to be curious about your body as you grow up.

When it comes to getting to know your own body, there aren't any specific rules about how you should feel or what you should be doing. It's a very personal thing, and everyone's experiences are different. Just because you hear friends talking about something or see content online doesn't mean it's something you have to do.

The most important thing is that you never feel pressured to do anything you're not comfortable or ready for. Take things at your own pace and remember that growing up is different for everyone.

Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

Do you know, I've answered thousands of questions over the years, and this is one that comes up again and again. Not because you don't have a good relationship with your mum, but because talking about something so personal when you're already feeling self-conscious about puberty can feel like a really big deal.

The truth is, it doesn't have to be.

Chances are, your mum has already realised that your first period can't be too far away. She's probably noticed the changes that come with growing up and will be ready to support you when the time comes.

Take a deep breath and keep it simple. You could just say:

"Mum, I started my period today."

That's it.

You could then add:

"I think I'll need some period pads for the next few days, and maybe some to keep for next time too."

And if saying it out loud feels too embarrassing, that's okay. You could send a text, write a note, or even message her from another room if that feels easier. Plenty of girls find that less awkward than starting the conversation face-to-face.

Remember, getting your first period is a normal part of growing up. Your mum has either been through it herself or will understand exactly why you're feeling nervous. Once you've told her, she can help answer questions, get you the supplies you need, and help you feel more confident about what's happening.

You've got this, and I promise you're not the first girl to feel nervous about having this conversation. Check out my blog below for more advice❤️Vicki 

How Do I Tell Someone My First Period Is Here (or Might Be Coming Soon)?

Hi ❤️

Thank you for your question and for being so honest about what you've been going through.

Firstly, please don't be too hard on yourself. Building a habit and then finding it difficult to stop doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It simply means that your brain has got used to a particular routine, and breaking routines can take time.

It's also worth remembering that being curious about your changing body is a normal part of growing up. The problem only really starts when something becomes a daily habit or something you turn to out of boredom, stress, or routine rather than genuine curiosity.

You mentioned that you've already tried some of my previous suggestions but still find yourself going back to old habits. In that case, try focusing on changing the situations that make the habit more likely to happen. For example, spend less time alone scrolling on devices, avoid staying online when you're bored, and keep yourself busy with activities that require your full attention, such as sports, hobbies, reading, gaming with friends, music, or creative projects.

Another useful trick is the 10-minute rule. If you feel the urge to watch something, tell yourself you'll wait just 10 minutes first and do something else during that time. Often, the feeling becomes less intense and easier to ignore.

Most importantly, don't think of this as a battle that you either win or lose. Everyone slips back into habits from time to time. What matters is that you keep trying and focus on making progress rather than being perfect.

The fact that you've reduced how often this happens compared to the past is already a positive step, so give yourself credit for that.

Good luck, and remember that habits can be changed, even if it takes a bit of time and patience. Vicki ❤️

Hi ❤️

Thank you for writing back. I know how overwhelming the thought of going back to school feels right now.

My advice is still to talk to your parents about how you're feeling. Even if you end up crying, that's okay. Tears are often a sign that you've been carrying a lot of worries on your own.

It may also help to ask your parents to speak to the school. They can help put support in place, and the card they've given you shows they want to help. Try not to worry about what other people think. Most students are focused on themselves rather than noticing what someone else is doing.

You're dealing with a lot of emotions at the moment, and that's completely normal. Be kind to yourself and remember that you don't have to handle this alone. Vicki 😊

Hi there ❤️ and firstly, I have to say that nobody can predict exactly when your first period will arrive. Not Google, not me, and not anyone else. Every girl's body develops at its own pace.

However, there are some signs that puberty is progressing nicely, and breast development and the growth of pubic and underarm hair are two of the biggest clues that your body is maturing. Mild tummy cramps can also happen for lots of reasons, including hormonal changes, but they do not mean that a period is definitely about to start.

So, while I can't tell you whether your first period will arrive at 10, 11, or even a little later, it would be sensible to start preparing now. A good idea is to put together a small period kit for your school bag. You could include a couple of period pads, a spare pair of underwear, and some wipes or tissues, so you'll feel confident and prepared if your period does start while you're at school.

Try not to worry too much. Getting your first period is a completely normal part of growing up, and when it does arrive, there will be people around to help you. Being prepared is the best thing you can do.

Take a look at my blogs below and remember that everyone's puberty journey is different. ❤️Vicki 

5 Signs Your First Period Might Be On The Way

Period Tips for School

My First Period

Hi, based on the measurements you've provided, your estimated bra size is 28A.

As this is generally a starting point for a first bra, it's always a good idea to try bras on before purchasing to make sure the fit feels snug, supportive, and comfortable. Different styles and brands can fit slightly differently, so you may find that some bras suit you better than others.

Remember that, like anything new, wearing a bra can take a little getting used to. I always recommend wearing your new bra around the house for a few days before wearing it for longer periods. This gives you time to get used to the feel of it and helps you check that it's comfortable throughout the day.

The right bra should feel secure without digging in, and the cups should fit smoothly without gaps or spillage. If it doesn't feel quite right, don't be afraid to try a different size or style.

I hope this helps! 😊

Hi there 💜

First of all, please don't apologise what you've written doesn't sound like a rant at all. It sounds like someone who has been carrying a lot of worry and hurt on their own for a long time.

What stands out to me is that you're not simply nervous about going back to school. You're frightened because last year was incredibly difficult. If you were crying every night, dreading each day, and struggling with anxiety on top of everything else, it makes complete sense that the thought of Year 11 is bringing all those feelings back.

The fact that you've recently been diagnosed with autism is important too. Sometimes getting a diagnosis can help explain why school has felt so overwhelming, but it doesn't magically make everything easier overnight. You are still processing what it means, and you deserve support.

Please remember this: Year 11 does not have to be a repeat of Year 10.

Your school now has information they didn't have before. If they haven't already, your parents or carers should contact the school's SENDCO (Special Educational Needs Coordinator) and explain how much you struggled last year. Things such as a safe space at break times, help with anxiety, adjustments in lessons, or regular check-ins with a trusted member of staff may be able to be put in place.

I also want you to know that you don't have to wait until the first day back to ask for help. If the anxiety is becoming overwhelming now, tell a parent, trusted family member, or someone else who can support you. Sometimes sharing exactly how scared you are can help adults understand that this isn't just "back-to-school nerves".

Most importantly, be kind to yourself. You've already got through one of the hardest years you've experienced. That shows a huge amount of strength, even if it didn't feel like it at the time. Take things one day at a time, not the whole year at once. Right now, you don't need to cope with all of Year 11. You just need to get through each day.

Sending you a big hug. You're not alone, and there are people who will want to help once they know how much you're struggling. Vicki 💜

Hi, periods can last from 2-10 days, with the average being 3-5. But everyone is different and for your first few periods you may notice that each month how long they last changes, and that's very normal.

Hi, what you're describing is actually more common than you might think!

Sometimes when we're bored, our brain starts looking for something exciting to do. But when we finally choose an activity, it doesn't give us the same feeling we were hoping for, so we still feel bored or even more bored than before.

This can happen for lots of reasons:

• You're feeling tired and don't have much energy to enjoy the activity.
• You've done the activity so often that it doesn't feel as exciting right now.
• You're in the mood for something different but aren't quite sure what.
• Your brain is craving a challenge, novelty, or social connection rather than the activity itself.

A few things you could try are:

✨ Switch things up. If you usually read, try drawing. If you usually game, try going for a walk or listening to a podcast.

✨ Do something for just 10 minutes. Sometimes getting started is the hardest part, and you may find yourself enjoying it once you're into it.

✨ Make a boredom list. Write down 20 things you enjoy, from big activities to tiny ones. Then when you're bored, pick something from the list instead of trying to think of ideas in the moment.

✨ Spend time with other people. Even a quick chat with a friend or family member can make a favourite activity feel more enjoyable.

✨ Don't put pressure on yourself to have fun. Sometimes it's okay to have a quiet, slightly boring day. Those days happen to everyone!

Most importantly, don't worry that there's something wrong with you. Everyone goes through phases where even their favourite hobbies don't seem as exciting as usual. Often the feeling passes after a little time or a change of routine. 😊Vicki 

Hi💖

First of all, I want you to know that a foundation year is nothing to be ashamed of. It got you onto your degree, you've successfully completed it, and you're now entering the next stage of your studies. That's an achievement, not a failure.

That said, you're also allowed to have information that you consider private. You don't owe everyone from school or back home a detailed explanation of your academic journey if you don't want to share it.

From what you've described, I don't think you're being unreasonable. You didn't demand that the post be changed. You politely asked after seeing it and explained that calling yourself a "2nd year" feels a bit odd when you're actually starting your third year at university overall.

As for your friend, her response doesn't sound dismissive or annoyed to me. It sounds more like a quick reply from someone who was busy:

"Flipp, I can't really change it now that it's up 🥲"

Often when people manage society social media, they schedule posts, have lots of messages coming in, and don't necessarily realise how important a particular issue is to one person. The fact she hasn't replied further doesn't automatically mean she's upset with you.

Should you follow up? Yes, I think it's reasonable to follow up once.

Because this is causing you significant anxiety, a gentle message is perfectly acceptable. You don't need to mention the foundation year if you're not comfortable doing so.

You could say something like:

"Hey! Sorry to bring this up again. I know you're really busy. I was just wondering if there was any chance of removing the year from my committee post when you get a chance? I'd really appreciate it because it's been playing on my mind a bit. No worries if not, I just thought I'd ask. 💕"

That's polite, appreciative, and doesn't put pressure on her.

What if she says no? If the post stays as it is, it's worth remembering something important:

Most people are far less likely to notice than your anxiety is telling you.

For someone to work out that you completed a foundation year, they would need to:

• See the society post.
• Notice it says "2nd year".
• Remember what year you're supposed to be in.
• Think about it long enough to realise there must have been a foundation year.
• Care enough to ask.

That's actually quite a long chain of events. Anxiety has a habit of taking a possibility and making it feel like a probability.

If someone does ask: You don't have to justify yourself.

You could simply say:

"I did a foundation year before starting my degree." Then change the subject. You don't owe anybody an explanation beyond that.

You mentioned regretting telling people in the past that you hadn't done a foundation year. I think the reason this feels so stressful now is that you're trying to protect a secret that doesn't actually reflect anything negative about you.  Sometimes the fear of judgment becomes much bigger than the thing itself.

Think of it like this, if one of your friends told you they'd done a foundation year, would you think less of them? Probably not.

For now, though, focus on what you can control: send one polite follow-up message, then let your friend respond in her own time.

And please remember this: whether you're entering the second year of your degree or your third year at university overall, you've earned your place there. That's something to be proud of, not something to hide. ❤️Vicki 

💖 Hi there, Kit,

Aww, that's such a thoughtful question, and thank you for your kind words! They really do mean a lot. 😊

You're definitely not being rude by asking. It's a perfectly reasonable question!

I don't usually take breaks from answering questions on purpose, but recently there was a technical issue where some questions were being submitted multiple times. This ended up slowing things down quite a bit and made it harder to work through everyone's messages properly. We needed a little time to figure out what was causing the problem and get everything running smoothly again.

Thankfully, everything now seems to be back to normal, which is great news! 🎉

And you're absolutely right about not putting too much pressure on yourself. Whether it's answering questions, doing schoolwork, or anything else in life, it's important for everyone to take breaks and look after themselves when they need to.

Thank you for being so caring and supportive, Kit. It's lovely to know there are people like you out there who think about others and check in on them. 🥰