23 Jan 2026
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In response to moDZZ - Hi Vicki, thank you so much for such a kind and grounding response — it really helped. I think part of why this has stayed on my mind is because nearly a year has passed, and I thought I’d feel a bit more comfortable around them by now. So it made me wonder if I should be doing something rather than just waiting for the “right moment.” Do you think it would be okay to try the coffee idea again, but in a more relaxed way this time? No pressure, just something simple to keep the connection going. Also, there’s another colleague they’re quite close with — the one who ended up joining us when I was covering, and we all talked for the day. That was honestly the most at ease I’ve felt at work so far. When they’re next in, I was thinking of gently saying something like: “I’ve been thinking about what you said last time about coming over to the other side more. I think it’s a comfort thing for me - I get this odd feeling that everyone’s watching, even though I’ve never really felt that before. It’s strange, because I’m usually fine in groups or when speaking in front of large audiences, like I did back in school or uni lectures'. 'That day we all chatted together was the most at ease I’ve felt since starting here. I really enjoyed it, and I want to get better at that here, especially since we don’t all see each other that often.'
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