14 Feb 2026

QWciT

Hi Vicki I don't feel like I'm as close as I was with my best friend. We used to talk all the time and now we don't. Any tips on how I can help fix our friendship? ❤

14 Feb 2026

MUjuy

Hi Vicki, I need some advice. My ex‑best friend has been telling people she has things like autism, ADHD, anger issues, and even cancer. I’m not sure what’s true, and it’s making me feel confused because she never mentioned any of this when we were close. Do you have any advice? Thanks, Jamie x

13 Feb 2026

HNaW2

Hi Vicki. Thank you for your response to Q0HqE. It was really thoughtful and allowed me to have a real think. Personally, I would go with the first and second point. Maybe more on the second point, but as I've known them for over a year now it could lean into the first one. It's funny because I've thought about how I could maybe speak to them more when they're around others, and in my head 'yeah I've got this', but when that moment comes in real life I just almost swallow my words. Any advice would be really helpful. Let me know if you have any follow up questions.

13 Feb 2026

Q0HqE

There's a person in sixth form that I see from time to time. We're not in the same classes, but we catch up here and there. However, for example, when they're leaving for the end of the day and others are around I just sort of wave my hand instead of saying out loud 'Bye (name), Have lovely evening'. With them I just sort of stop myself, this doesn't happen with anyone else. Can you help at all Vicki?

11 Feb 2026

QAmEu

Lil problem here, umm so I recently got this new outfit (blue&pink dress) and I love it and can’t wait to wear it! My friend T is having a birthday party on Sunday and I’m wearing a different outfit to the blue&pink dress. Anyways this morning my friend E was over in my house before our gymnastics. She’s a bit nosey and was looking through my clothes and stuff. Anyways she found the blue&pink dress and said “it was really pretty”I said “thanks” and that was that until this morning. When I woke I had like 5 messages from her saying she needed an outfit ASAP and can she have my blue&pink dress for the birthday party. She knows I’m not wearing it and I don’t know what to do because I’m not trying to be greedy but I don’t really want her to wear it before me and also she is a good bit bigger than me and I’m afraid she’ll strech it out too… what do I do?

10 Feb 2026

2CRNf

hi vicki, i asked question dCDmT, and i wanted to tell you are feelings have progressed, she has asked me to be her gf. which i explained that i don't know, because im questioning myself, and i might like other people. this week she asked me to be her valentine, which i said yes to, thinking it would just be our little thing. then on a bus ride we take, she kissed my cheek a couple of times (tiny, gentle ones) probs because i was sad. I did it back once but i have mixed feelings. i see the way she looks at me & i know i don't deserve it. i have tried to stop eating because of my body, but have only strated again because of my period. i want to start again & feel suisidal thoughts. i don't know how she would handle that. on top of it, i have other crushes, and i don't know what to do!!! i have tried talking to childline about my feelings, however i stopped after i didn't have time, and knew my parents would be upset if they knew... i feel like a mess, and right now, i know they'd be better off without me. what should i do about all this??? thanks :)

10 Feb 2026

CkZUF

Hey Vicki why when I’m around a boy I like or when I talk to him or get close to him in the back of I feel tingling or it’s itchy like u ate a exotic fruit

9 Feb 2026

xs6Zd

hi vicky school sucks. i'm in year 8 and ive heard it's usually the hardest year for school. i feel like no one likes me and i don't know what i did. it makes me really sad and i cry all the time after song and it's just horrible. i have lots of friends but i never fell like they really like me or would choose me. i had a friend group of girls (quite small 4 people but one of the girls is barely at school so a trio mostly) and i feel really out of place because one of the girls is really loud and clingy and im much more of an introverted person and i just don't really want to be friends with her anymore because it makes me uncomfortable but i fell trapped because i don't want to make her upset. if you remember the message i sent about her wanted to do self harm (i can't remember the code sorry) that's the same girl. And so i went to another friend group of nice girls that said i could hang out with them but i fell like they don't really like me and dont want me in their group (one of the girls said that i could hang out but not join their group.) all the other girls in the year are in solid friend groups that i cant just join out of no where. its making me really stressed and i dont enjoy school anymore. any tips?

9 Feb 2026

801Bk

3TKnj I feel like i’m just really tired at the minute and it’s just waking up makes me upset because no matter how early i go to sleep I’m so tired in the morning. I just get stressed keeping up with homework. I’ve also been feeling a bit like everyone in my friend group has a best friend apart from me. Thanks Vicki

7 Feb 2026

6uioP

hi i have a crush on this boy let's call him J. and i really like him he's really nice and i was wondering wether i should ask him out for valentines. 💌 but idk if he likes me and im really scared of rejection cuz i have social anxiety. he's nice to me and talks to me a lot and i catch him looking at me a bit. but he's nice to everyone so idk whether im just being delusional. what do you think??

6 Feb 2026

cQR0C

Hey Vicki! Hope ur well. My ex-bff told me she has cancer when we were bffs, but now we aren’t she is rly clingy to my other friends, and in PE my friends promised that instead of my ex bff my current bff could join our group, but this week my ex bff, who clearly heard what my friends said AND agreed to it, but this PE she said ‘im not leaving’. It’s like she thinks she can do whatever she wants bc she has autism and cancer, and I know it’s mean and I wish I didn’t, but I kind of want her to be in hospital for a bit just to give me a break. Plus, it’s been a year since my grandma died and I miss her so much, and her grandad died a week ago, and when we were doing work she just started crying and my entire group's attention turned to her and I lost marks for not finishing. Everyone always makes her seem like the hero/victim and im always the villain for wanting to finish my work. I just wish she could get out of my life for just a week, so I can calm down. Pls any advice? From Jamie x

6 Feb 2026

PTIWr

vicki i have no friends

5 Feb 2026

tWgAs

How can I stop myself from going on my phone at night 🩵

5 Feb 2026

3SGET

I don’t know why this question is stressin me out a bit bcuz I cause it’s hard to control what others think and I’m mentally preparing myself if I get in a relationship in future and this happens to me (if they become close with my female friends and possibly develop a crush on them cause they’re lovely attractive ppl)…. Is it morally wrong for a guy to FANTASISE about a crush who is a FRIEND of theirs or CLOSE FRIEND of theirs / their partner? Or does it depend on if it’s just curiosity, if it’s frequently, or depend on if they have a deep emotional connection or not towards that friend crush? It’s hard to know what the boundaries are of so or don’t I’m just scared I’ll be with a partner in future and that I won’t know what they’re thinking of others. Sexual fantasises are normal I read online whilst in a relationship - but what if it’s a colleague or close friend who is their CRUSH as well? How do you know which is emotional cheating or “just fantasising about crush” - but it’s somebody I’m close with in real life (not like celebrity)? I’m curious and confused. Sorry for confusing question. Thank you so much been playing on my mind xoxxox

31 Jan 2026

VTnJl

Hi Vikki I want to know plz if my friend should apologise to me or not. I don’t know if I’m being picky or if it’s valid of me to want them to say sorry for not communicating. So my friend was bothered by soemthing I said (it wasn’t nasty- they were showing me something and I asked a question that wasn’t offensive, they just didn’t feel understood I think / wasn’t sure why I was thinking of what I said when they were thinking of something else?)… anyway so later on they said it bothered them when I asked this. So I said sorry for accidentally bothering you - I can’t help what pops into my mind, the question just did. Anyways they said I don’t need to say sorry and did nothing wrong. So - at the time when they said they were bothered (an hour or 3 hours later) by what I said earlier… I said to them “I’m upset because you told me you would tell me if something I say / do bothers you, and you didn’t tell me when it did, only when I asked you later. I’m going to be worrying about what does and doesn’t bother you now cause you’re not communicating with me” I explained to him that what worries me is in future he won’t tell me what bothers him - because from him not speaking up, he misunderstood me and thought I was thinking something about him that wasn’t true etc. basically him not speaking up in the moment caused a misunderstanding. What bothers me about him not telling me when I’ve bothered him about something, is that he SAID to me he will tell me if anything bothers him - but he didn’t. Anyway so he explained it’s because it wasn’t important and wasn’t a huge bother - but when I asked him at the time it did bother him enough to bring it up. So I’m confused what classes a big or “little” enough for not being up - regarding what bothers him? Do you think I’m being picky or that I should expect an apology from him? He only told me it bothered him when I asked. He apologised for that to cause me to be upset - because I get worried that people won’t tell me things and then misunderstandings will happen and things will go wrong if they don’t tell me - that’s why it’s important to ME. I said to him, if I was laughing too loudly and talking too loud for eg. And he didn’t speak up- that’s different and fair enough. But this thing is important to me. I said I’ve made mistakes in past wher I haven’t spoken up before so I get no one is perfect and I’m not expecting him to talk about every single thing just what I do say to at bothers him. So what do you think Vikki plz? 1) Should he apologise to me or not - for not telling me I did / said something that bothered him? 2) If not… what then are the important things he needs to speak up about that involve me? What should I let “slide” / allow him to not speak up about?

30 Jan 2026

f0kcg

Hi Vicki I'm arabella. All the girls in my class are skinny and I'm kinda fat looking I know that I shouldn't be self shaming myself but I sometimes feel embarrassed when I'm with my friends Also I always feel like someone is watching me at night and day I told my mom but she didn't really do anything and now I'm Kinda thinking about therapy (I'm 11 by the way) also is ti weird that I'm excited for my period also I don't know of my friend is a real friend anymore because when she's mad she always gets mad at me and whenever we play tag and she's on she always go for me she's really emotional so I can't explain this to her or she'll have a meltdown and conniption

28 Jan 2026

QsAAe

Vicki, I feel so rubbish right now. I've been struggling with my mental health for so long I can't remember much from when I was not struggling. Last year it got worse, then a bit better and now it's even worse. I started SH last year but I was doing better then a few months ago I started scratching myself and it progressed. I confided in a few friends that I felt confident that they would be helpful. One of these friends is a boy I'm so close with we call ourselves siblings and at first we was doing all the normal stuff (telling me that it's bad, hugging me when I seem down, comforting me) but he's started making fun of me. I have to admit that I do lash out a bit when I'm having an especially bad day. Also I've been struggling with my eating, I don't feel like I can tell my family so I just try to casually message my mum for some food and she's started noticing some odd things in my usual day to day life. I am 12 3/4 This is a really long message and I'm very sorry that I'm wasting your time.

27 Jan 2026

fLJa1

hey theres this boy I might like but he's catholic ND I'm Christian and I don't want to date some one who doesn't belive the same as me also there family friends and I don't want to make it awkward if we like each other

27 Jan 2026

t8xcy

hey it me from UwUWY. how do I know if I like them or not there is also another boy (TP) and he's really cute and I have liked him for like 4 years but I never see him any more so idk if I like him or this other kid(LP) I get a funny feeling around TP but I cant talk to him at all. please help

27 Jan 2026

QIy215

Hi Vicki, Im really insecure since my supposed friends keep making fun of and call me flat-chested. Ive never even thought about it until they started saying stuff. Im not even flat they are just on the smaller side.