Your friend really does have a strange sense of humour, and you have a choice - you either accept this and try not to let it get to you, or do as we have discussed previously and just distance yourself from her slowly. Yes, your dad has a point there really is no need to have a massive fall out, but your feelings are valid and if she makes you sad, angry or uncomfortable it's best to let this friendship run its course.

First of all, please don’t apologise, you’ve got a lot going on right now, and it makes sense it’s all weighing on you. That feeling of “why is everyone else already on summer?” is so real, especially when you’re reading sites like Girls’ Life.

But those web pages are designed to look upbeat and perfect, they’re basically a highlight reel, not real life. You’re in the final stretch with exams, not the relaxing part yet and that doesn’t mean your summer is worse, just that it’s starting a little later.

About your period - what you’re experiencing is actually really normal. Stress (like exams), being unwell, and changes to your routine can all delay it, so a longer cycle this month isn’t unusual. It might show up during exams (annoying timing, I know), but you can handle that, just be a bit prepared so it doesn’t catch you off guard.

And as for your summer? 57 days might feel shorter, but it’s still a solid break, plus you’ve got Malaysia in August, which is something genuinely exciting to look forward to. Your timeline is just different, not worse.

When you do get into your summer, you could try:

• Planning a few low-pressure meetups or chill days with friends
• Starting a small project (writing, drawing, journaling, or even a reading list)
• Giving your room a refresh or sorting through clothes for a little reset
• Making a mini “summer wishlist” so you’ve got things to look forward to
• Letting yourself properly relax after exams without feeling guilty

You’re doing exactly what you need to be doing right now, even if it doesn’t feel fun yet. This part is temporary and your break is coming. You’ve got this ✨

This is such a tricky situation, and it makes total sense you feel stressed 💛 On one hand, you shouldn’t have to invite someone who has been unkind to you, and your feelings about that are completely valid. At the same time, I can see your mum is trying to keep things calm and prevent the situation from escalating, especially since the invitation has already been given. She’s also thinking about kindness and how it feels to be excluded, even though, like you said, the situation isn’t exactly the same.

Because she’s already invited, it might be best just for this one time to still include her, especially if your parents will be there and things will feel more controlled. Then, going forward, you can gently create distance, be civil like your mum said, but not close and that way it won’t feel like a big or sudden thing if she’s not invited to future events.

Most importantly, your birthday should still feel like your day, so focus on the people who do make you feel happy and safe 💛

Firstly, can I just say how much growth you’ve shown? The way you described that shift from obsession → using it as motivation → realizing the strength was yours all along… that’s genuinely a big emotional step. A lot of people never get to that level of self-awareness, so don’t brush past it.

The real decision in front of you now is about protecting the progress you’ve already made. From what you’ve described, he hasn’t shown clear interest, and while that can feel confusing, it’s actually a kind of answer in itself. What matters more is that you already proved you can move on, you built confidence, created a fuller life, and stopped depending on him for how you feel. This moment is just testing that progress, not undoing it. The healthiest step now is to consciously close the door again: reduce how much he comes up in conversations with your family, gently ask them not to mention him, and keep your focus on the life you’ve been building rather than reopening something that never really began.

Letting go here isn’t “missing your chance,” it’s choosing clarity and self-respect over getting pulled back into uncertainty. The pattern that’s kept past crushes lingering wasn’t lack of opportunity, it was staying emotionally hooked on the unknown. You don’t need to chase an answer from him to move forward; you already have enough information to know that this isn’t something actively developing. By stepping away now, you’re not losing something real, you’re reinforcing the stronger, more grounded version of yourself who doesn’t wait around for mixed signals and doesn’t need anyone’s attention to feel secure.

It sounds like you’re a really kind and thoughtful friend to E, and that’s such a lovely thing 💛 A good friend doesn’t have to fix everything or have all the answers, they’re there to listen, support, and care. The best thing you can do right now is be someone she can talk to, someone who makes her feel safe, and also someone who can bring a bit of lightness to her day when things feel heavy.

At the same time, it’s important to remember that some of what she’s going through, like family disagreements or personal identity, isn’t something you need to take on or get involved in. Those are bigger situations for trusted adults to help with. Your role is just to be her friend: listen, be kind, and encourage her to talk to someone she trusts if things feel serious. That balance keeps you supportive without it becoming too much for you 💛

Hi Phoebe‑L 💗I'm really glad you came to me again, it sounds like you’ve got a lot on your mind right now, so first of all just take a breath, you’re doing okay.

If I had to choose, I’d say Noelle, because she’s kind, steady, and always trying her best, which is such a lovely vibe. But honestly, you don’t need to pick at all it’s completely fine to like both characters and just enjoy what makes you happy.

About your boyfriend, it’s a really positive sign that he listens to you, but it’s still important that he fully respects your boundaries without needing to be asked again. If you’ve said no to kissing, that should be enough, and it’s okay to remind him kindly but clearly that you don’t want to be asked again. Someone who really cares about you will make sure you feel comfortable and not pressured, and you absolutely deserve that kind of respect in any relationship.

With the kids being mean to you, I’m really sorry, that’s not nice to deal with at all. Try not to give them the reaction they’re looking for, stay close to people who are kind to you, and don’t be afraid to tell a trusted adult if it keeps happening, because you shouldn’t have to handle it on your own💛

It’s completely okay to feel unsure about your sexuality right now 💛 you don’t have to figure everything out or label yourself yet, it’s something that becomes clearer over time, and there’s no rush at all.

When it comes to your friend, it makes sense that you’d feel nervous if she sometimes says things that come across as judgemental. If you don’t feel safe or supported sharing this part of yourself yet, it’s okay to wait. You don’t owe anyone that information until you feel comfortable. Friendships should feel safe, not stressful. You might also start to gently notice how she reacts to things over time, sometimes people grow and change, especially in their teens.

For now, focus on being yourself and surrounding yourself (even if it’s just one or two people) with those who make you feel accepted. You’re not weird at all, you’re just figuring yourself out, like everyone does 💗

I’m really sorry you’re feeling like this 💗 that kind of situation hurts more than people realise, especially when it feels like you’re not being listened to or taken seriously. What your friend is doing (mean “jokes”, brushing off your feelings) isn’t okay, and it makes sense you’d start to question whether people really care. Wanting someone who chooses you and actually listens is completely valid, that’s what real friendships should feel like.

With your BFF, try not to get caught up in what might be being said that can just make everything feel bigger and more stressful. Instead, focus on being your usual fun, positive self when you’re with her, sharing laughs and good moments. If anything is being said, she’s much more likely to brush it off if her experience with you is strong and positive. At the same time, it’s okay to take a step back from the friend who’s making you feel this way and put more energy into the people who actually treat you well, including that one friend who really listens 💛

Hi, firstly, I am really sorry I have taken so long to get back to you, our website had a few gremlins and was down for 24 hours.

I’m really sorry you’re going through this, Em 💗 what you’ve described isn’t “just a joke”,  it’s someone repeatedly ignoring your boundaries and then blaming you when you stand up for yourself, which isn’t okay. You’ve actually handled it really well by calmly telling her to stop, and the fact she keeps going (and even comments on your psoriasis) crosses into bullying, not banter. You’re not dramatic, you’re reacting to being hurt, and that’s completely valid.

It might be time to put some distance between you and her, even if you don’t fully “end” the friendship, just stop engaging when she starts, walk away, and save your energy for people who treat you kindly. I know it’s scary, but telling your mum or a trusted teacher could really help, especially since this is affecting you so much and you deserve support, not to deal with it alone. For now, focus on your real friends who listen and care, and try not to let her reactions pull you in, she’s looking for that reaction, and you deserve better than that. 💛

Hi and welcome back 💗 this is exactly the kind of thing I can help with!

If it's just one friend coming over for the sleepover keep it chilled but fun, the best sleepovers are a mix of laughs + cozy vibes:

• Movie + pizza night 🍕
• Face masks / mini spa (even DIY ones!)
• Online quizzes together (BuzzFeed style, chaotic but funny 😂)
• Play with your kitten 🐾 + give it a mini “photoshoot”
• If you plan to use your laptop - check out some weird food combos and challenge yourselves.
• Make Pinterest boards (outfits, dream life, etc.)

🎬 Here are some Netflix movies, not often watched but ideal for your age:

• Do Revenge – iconic messy teen drama
• The Half of It – sweet + emotional
• Sierra Burgess Is a Loser – cute + awkward
• Tall Girl – light, easy watch
• The Perfect Date – fun romcom vibes

🌤️ Next day

• Walk to a café for drinks/snacks ☕
• Go to local shops - The Range is always good for fun craft ideas too!
• Charity shop browsing (surprisingly fun)
• Ice cream run 🍦
• Colour hunting, my current fav thing to do with my daughters

Finally, don’t over-plan it, honestly the best part will just be chatting, laughing, being a bit chaotic random conversations at 1am and making memories

Hi, it’s understandable to reflect on conversations, but in this case everything you’ve described sounds like normal workplace chat and light humour rather than anything meaningful or concerning, and it may help to take things at face value instead of analysing them further. You’ve handled yourself appropriately, and there’s nothing here that needs revisiting with your colleagues.

In terms of the birthday gifts, you’ve already thanked everyone, which is more than enough, anything further, like cards, would be unnecessary. Going forward, keeping interactions relaxed and not over-interpreting small moments will likely help you feel more at ease and avoid added pressure in your work relationships.

Hi there, crushes are honestly equal parts exciting and confusing, so everything you’re feeling makes total sense. From what you’ve said, it sounds like Z is friendly and chatty with lots of people, which makes it really hard to tell if there’s anything more there. And the situation with your friend M adds another layer, no wonder you’re overthinking it a bit.

💭 What to do next
You don’t need to rush into anything. For now, keeping things on a friendly, easy-going level is actually the best move. Chat to him, laugh, be yourself, let him see your personality without the pressure of “does he like me or not?”

At the same time, it’s really fair to be mindful of your friend. “Girl code” isn’t about shutting your feelings down, but it is about being respectful. Since he and M have history (and you think feelings might still be there), it’s wise not to jump straight into anything serious.

💗 A gentle reality check
If he does like you, he’ll usually give clearer signs over time, like making more effort with you specifically, not just treating you like everyone else. And if he doesn’t? That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you, it just means he’s not your person.

✨Confidence tip
You don’t actually have to “ask him out” right now. A softer step could be: talking to him more one-on-one, suggesting something casual like walking somewhere together or hanging out in a group,  this takes the pressure off but still moves things forward a little.

Remember you're allowed to have a crush, even in a slightly messy situation, just take it slow, stay kind (to your friend and yourself), and don’t put pressure on yourself to figure it all out immediately. The right things tend to become clearer with time and you don’t have to chase them. 💛

Hi, it sounds like you’re just noticing that little buzz you get when someone new gives you attention, and that’s completely natural 💛

Whether J likes you or not is honestly a bit hard to tell, chatting about kung fu and saying hi with a smile could just mean he’s being friendly and enjoys talking to you, especially since you share the same interest. A lot of the time, boys don’t make their intentions super obvious, so it can feel confusing!

The most important thing here is how you feel. You’ve said you have a boyfriend who is sweet and funny, and you wouldn’t want to end that for someone else, that’s a really clear and grounded way of thinking 👍

It’s absolutely okay to notice other people or enjoy chatting with them, but I think you’re spot on to keep things with J friendly and not read too much into it. Just enjoy your conversations, keep your boundaries clear, and don’t overthink it, you’re handling this really maturely already.

I’m really sorry this is happening to you, that’s such a tough situation to be in 💛

Friendships can get really intense during puberty, and sometimes when someone feels insecure, left out, or jealous, they might act out in ways like spreading rumours,  even though that doesn’t make it okay.

The best thing you can do is not fuel it. Try to ignore the rumours as much as you can, people who truly know you and care about you will recognise they’re not true. Hold your head high, stay kind, and don’t get pulled into drama. If you can, be the bigger person, sometimes showing a little kindness or simply not reacting can take the power away from the situation. And if it starts to affect you or gets worse, it’s always okay to speak to a trusted adult or someone at school for support. Keep being yourself and don’t let anyone dim your shine ✨

Honestly, what you’re describing is so common, even if it feels like your brain is all over the place right now. Puberty is such an intense time, feelings get bigger, crushes start popping up, and at the exact same time you become much more aware of yourself and what other people might think. It’s honestly the worst timing sometimes! One minute you’re thinking “maybe he likes me??” and the next you’re spiralling into “nobody will ever like me”, that emotional flip-flopping is your hormones and growing self-awareness having a bit of a chaotic moment together. It doesn’t mean either thought is fully true, it just means your feelings are still settling and figuring themselves out.

About this boy it sounds like you’ve got a really nice, easy friendship going, and that’s actually something quite special on its own. It’s also true that boys often develop emotionally a bit later than girls, so what might feel romantic to you could just feel like fun friendship to him for now. And that’s okay. There’s absolutely no rush to label it or turn it into something bigger. Just enjoy passing notes, sharing mints, and laughing together without putting pressure on it to be anything else. If it grows into something more, it will naturally and if it doesn’t, you’ve still got a great connection. Try to quiet that “you must decide now” voice and just let things be what they are. You’re allowed to take your time with your heart 💛

Hi💛 thank you for sharing this, it sounds like you’ve got a mix of friendship stuff and worries on your mind. First of all, you are not the problem here. Calling you “skinny” or “bony” in a mean way isn’t kind, and you don’t deserve that. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes, especially at your age, and being slim doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. What matters is that you feel healthy and have energy.

It’s also completely normal not to click with everyone in a group, the important thing is you’ve found someone you do get along with. If that girl keeps being unkind, you can calmly say something like “Can you stop? That’s not nice,” or just ignore her and take the attention away from what she’s saying.

About sleep, yes, this can definitely be connected. When someone is mean, your brain can replay it at night when everything is quiet, making it harder to switch off. Try to wind down in the evening (reading or relaxing instead of screens), and if your thoughts are busy, write them down before bed to get them out of your head. If you can’t sleep, that’s okay,  just rest and breathe slowly. You sound really thoughtful and strong for noticing all this, and it might also help to talk to a parent, teacher, or another adult you trust. You’re not alone in this, and things will get easier 💕

Hi, this is such a thoughtful question and it sounds like you’re being really considerate about how you approach it, which is great.

It does sound like you’ve had a really nice, genuine moment with this colleague, but I’d gently say try not to read too much into the wooden spoon gesture or feel like you need to reciprocate in a big or meaningful way. Sometimes these little, quirky moments are just that light, friendly interactions rather than something deeper.

Work friendships can be really positive, but they do need a bit of care so that boundaries stay comfortable for everyone. Keeping things relaxed, natural, and low-pressure is usually the best way forward.

Hi, it sounds like you were really excited about the Stitch movie, and you’d made it pretty clear that you wanted that to be your birthday plan, so it makes sense that you felt a bit annoyed and maybe even hurt when your friend chose it for hers instead.

t the same time, it could have been a bit of a misunderstanding, or maybe she didn’t realise how important it was to you, even if you’d mentioned it a lot. Sometimes things feel obvious to us but don’t land the same way with other people.

I wouldn’t say you were “wrong” for feeling upset, that’s totally valid. But holding onto it for a whole year is probably hurting you more than anyone else. It might help to let it go now and focus on enjoying the things you love (like Stitch!) without it being tied to that situation. Friendships can get a bit messy at times, especially at your age, but most of the time it’s not meant in a bad way.

Hi, sometimes the thought of going in is much worse in our heads than the reality. Try to be brave you might find it’s not as bad as you expect. It could also really help to have a quiet chat with your teacher so they can keep an eye on things and support you. I’m sure by now it’s probably not as big a deal as it feels in your head, and others may have already moved on.

Hi, from what you’ve said, things kind of got messy really quickly here! There was a misunderstanding with other people, and then Deon sharing your secret made it feel like your trust was broken. That’s completely valid, you’re allowed to feel upset about that. It also sounds like there might be mixed feelings there (like blushing when he was close and maybe liking him a bit), which can make everything feel even more confusing.

My advice is to try not to avoid your lessons, it might feel scary, but going back can actually help things settle instead of making it bigger in your head. You don’t need a big conversation straight away, just be calm, polite, and keep things normal. Over time you can decide if you want to talk to him about how he hurt you by sharing your secret. Also, remember that if he did like you, that might explain why he acted differently after you mentioned another crush, but that still doesn’t make it okay to expose you. Take it slow, stay around friends you trust 💛