How To Ask To Ask Your Mum For Your First Bra

Getting your first bra is a big step and it’s totally normal to feel a little nervous or unsure about how to bring it up. Whether your body is changing, your friends are starting to wear bras, or you just want a bit more comfort and support, this blog is here to help you feel confident about asking.

First Things First: Why You Might Need a Bra

You might be wondering, “Do I really need a bra yet?” The truth is, there’s no exact age or size when you have to start wearing one, it's all about you and how you feel.

Some signs you might be ready include:

• Feeling sore or tender around your chest
• Noticing breast growth or changes in shape
• Wanting extra comfort or coverage under clothes
• Feeling self-conscious in certain tops
  

Not sure if you need a bra just yet? It’s still okay to ask! Starting with a training bra or crop top is a great way to ease into the chat.

How to Start the Conversation 

Even if you're not usually shy about chatting to your mum or the person who cares for you about lots of things, it's still very normal to feel a bit awkward or unsure about asking for your first bra.

But here’s something comforting to remember: your mum has probably already noticed the changes in your body and might be quietly waiting for you to bring it up. After all she was once a teen and she’s been through this herself and she knows how personal and important this moment is.

She’ll understand that asking for a bra can feel like a big step, and she’ll want to support you.

One gentle way to start is by asking your mum about her own experience of puberty and not just bras. You could say:

- “Mum, how old were you when you started puberty?”
- “Did you feel nervous asking for your first bra?”
- “Who did you talk to about it?”

These questions can help open up the conversation naturally. Once you’ve started chatting, your mum will likely take the lead and ask if you feel ready.

And if talking face-to-face feels too awkward, you can always write a note and leave somewhere only they will find it, or send a text. You could say something like:

“Hey Mum, I think I might be ready for a bra. Can we talk about it sometime?”

How To Ask Dad For A Bra

If you live with your dad and feel more comfortable speaking to someone else, that’s okay too. You could talk to a trusted adult like an older sister, aunt, grandmother, teacher, or school nurse. They can help guide the conversation or even speak to your dad on your behalf. You could say:

• “I think I might be ready for a bra, but I’m not sure how to ask Dad.”
• “Can you help me talk to him or come with me when I bring it up?”

If speaking face-to-face feels a bit too embarrassing, you could try writing a short note or sending a message to your dad. Something simple like, 

“Hey Dad, I think I might be ready for a bra. Could we talk about it sometime?” can help start the conversation without pressure.

Asking for your first bra is a brave and positive step. Your body is growing, and you deserve to feel comfortable and supported.

Remember, your parent or carer has probably been through this too or know someone who has and they’ll want to help you feel confident.

Check out the blogs below for lots more advice on getting your first bra, from choosing the right style, to knowing if it fits properly and understanding the changes you can expect during breast development.