Whether your first period has just arrived and you’re not sure who to tell or you think it might be coming soon, don’t worry, you’re not alone. We’ve got all the tips you need to help you start the chat and feel more confident.
So…your first period has arrived. You might feel surprised, nervous, or even a little unsure about what to do next. That’s totally normal! The good news is, you don’t have to go through it alone.
Talking about your period, especially your first one can feel a little awkward or even scary.
But guess what? You don’t have to say everything perfectly or all at once.
Starting the conversation is just about finding the right moment and the right person. Whether it’s a quick chat in the car or a quiet moment at home, here are some easy ways to begin.
Firstly, there really is no rush, take your time and pick your moment.
“Hey, I think I just got my first period. Can we talk later?”
If you’ve got brothers and sisters and never get any time alone with your parents, then why don’t you ask to go to the weekly food shop with them and once in the store make your way over to the period product aisle to see what products are on offer and say:
“I think I might need some of these.”
That can be a great way to start the chat without saying too much.
We all know periods have a habit of showing up when we least expect them! That’s why it’s a great idea to keep some pads at home and in your bag when you’re out and about.
But don’t worry there might still be times when your first period arrives and you’re not prepared. If that happens, here’s what you can do to stay calm and handle it like a pro.
TeensSometimes your period might leave a mark on your clothes and that’s okay, it happens to everyone at some point. If it does, here’s what you can do to handle it calmly and confidently.
If you live, or stay over with your dad, don’t worry, he’ll know all about periods too! But if you find it hard to chat ‘face to face’ with him, then ask a female family member for some help; an aunt, older sister or grandmother will be more than happy to help you out and let your dad know your news.
Alternatively, you could leave him a note with a list of things you need when he next goes shopping such as shower gel, antiperspirant, wipes etc. And add a pack of pads to your list and he’ll soon get the message.
And for dads, we've even written a blog just for them, so they understand how to chat to you!
Your period is personal, and it’s totally up to you whether you tell your friends or not. Some girls share right away, others wait and both are perfectly okay!
Being there for a friend when they get their period especially for the first time can mean the world. Here are some simple ways to show you care:
If your friend seems worried or embarrassed, let them know it’s totally normal and nothing to be ashamed of. A simple “It’s okay, I’m here” can be super comforting.
If you have a pad, liner, or even some tissues, offer them without making a big deal. You could say:
“Hey, I’ve got a pad if you need one!”
If they need to go to the nurse or office but feel shy, offer to go with them or help write a note.
Respect their privacy. Don’t tell others unless your friend says it’s okay.
If there’s a stain, offer your jumper or help them tie one around their waist. It’s a small gesture that can make a big difference.
After school or later in the day, ask how they’re feeling. It shows you care and helps them feel supported.
Remember, getting your period is a normal part of growing up. You’re not alone, and you’ve got this!
So, you’ve started noticing some changes to the way you look and how you feel. Maybe you’ve had discharge in your underwear, your breasts are developing, or you’ve been feeling more emotional than usual. These are all signs that your first period might be on the way. It can feel a little scary, confusing, or even exciting, and that’s totally normal.
Not sure if you should tell someone your period might be starting? Don’t worry, this section will help you feel ready to talk, choose who to tell, and get prepared.
You don’t have to jump straight into talking about periods. Try asking your parent or the person who cares for you about their own experiences growing up. For example:
It will only be a matter of time before the conversation moves over to you and how you feel. Chances are your family have been waiting for you to bring this subject up and will be glad to get it out and in the open.
If you feel nervous talking to your parents, that’s okay. You could start with:
They might even help you talk to your parents when you’re ready.
It can help to think about what you want to say ahead of time. You could even write it down in your journal or on your phone. Here’s an example:
“I think my period might be starting soon. Can we talk about what I should do?”
If saying it face-to-face feels too hard, try sending a message or leaving a note. It’s a great way to start the conversation without feeling too nervous.
Even if your period hasn’t started yet, it’s a smart idea to pack a little kit in your school bag or backpack. Include:
That way, you’ll feel calm and prepared—just in case it starts when you’re out and about.
Lil-Lets Teens Starter PackWhether your period has just started or you think it might be coming soon, we hope this blog has given you the confidence to chat to someone about it. It’s completely normal to feel unsure, talking about periods can feel like a big deal, and we totally get that.
Just remember, you’re not alone, and there’s no right or wrong way to start the conversation. Go at your own pace, speak to someone you trust, and know that you’ve got this!
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Getting your period is quite a big deal,but remember periods are part of life for half the population, so relax.
If you don’t want to make a fuss, simply mention in passing that your period has arrived, and that you are cool with it. Or if you’re home alone drop mum a text or give her a call. Remember she once had to do this as well and she will totally understand.
Why not write down what you want to say so you can get used to saying the words? We get that you may feel nervous chatting about this, but there is no reason to be embarrassed or even ashamed. Periods are completely natural and once you have shared this news, you may find that other things become easier to discuss too.
Ask a friend if they have any pads you can use. After all, if it were your friend who got their period, you’d want to help them out! If no one has any pads, then pop along to the school office and speak to someone there, they will almost certainly have period products you can use.
First periods can be daunting, or even exciting depending on how you feel about them, but one thing is for sure they are completely normal and should not prevent you from carrying on with your day as usual. In fact, if you have period pain or a few period cramps, keeping busy and going to school can help ease any discomfort you may be experiencing.
Getting your first period is a pretty big deal and lots of girls feel super excited for this time in their lives, so no it’s not wrong at all. In fact, it’s a special time for you, and another sign that you are on your way to becoming a young adult.
No one…and we mean no one can tell just by looking at you that you’re on your period! It’s entirely up to you if you want to share this news and perfectly okay if you prefer to keep it private.
We do have some tips for you that will help you feel more comfortable in school and when on your period, such as changing your pad every 3-5 hours to reduce any odour. Always have some supplies in your school or sports bag and our Lil-Lets Starter Kit is ideal and will ensure you are never caught out.
