Feeling nervous about starting secondary school without your friends? You’re not alone discover simple ways to feel more confident, make new friends, and manage those first-day nerves with ease.
After a summer of late-night movies, lazy mornings, and hanging out with friends, the thought of heading back to school, especially a new one can feel a bit scary.
If you're feeling nervous about starting secondary school, you're definitely not alone. Lots of students feel anxious, unsure, or even overwhelmed.
Starting secondary school is a big change. You’re leaving behind familiar faces, routines, and classrooms and stepping into a world that feels much bigger. Add puberty into the mix, and it’s no wonder you might feel anxious or emotional. These feelings are part of growing up, and they will get easier, we promise.
One of the first things you’ll notice is how many pupils there are, hundreds more than in primary school!
You’ll be moving between classrooms for different subjects, carrying more books, and meeting lots of new teachers. Your school will probably give you a planner to help you stay organised.
And yes, you might get lost at first, but guess what? Everyone does!
Top Tip: Prepare the night before by packing your bag, laying out your uniform, and checking your planner it’s a great way to avoid rushing around in the morning, which can make you feel stressed or even late!
It’s natural to worry about losing touch with friends from your old school, especially if you’re heading off in different directions. But try not to stress, friendships can change, and that’s okay.
Some friends may stay close, while others might drift a little, and that’s all part of growing up. If your old friends live nearby, why not arrange a quick catch-up at the weekend or during the holidays? Even a short chat or message can help you feel connected.
And remember, secondary school is a chance to make new friends too, ones who will grow with you over the coming years.
Making new friends and settling in takes time, but here are a few simple things that can help:
If you’re starting high school without friends, remember: you’re not the only one. Lots of students are in the same boat, and many are just as nervous as you.
Very often schools offer induction or open days and this is a great opportunity for you to meet your new classmates. If you can have a chat to as many people as possible so on your first day you can meet up and stay together.
Feeling anxious about school is normal, especially when everything feels new. Here are some ways to manage those nerves:
If you’re worried about being sick on your first day, try not to panic. That’s just your body reacting to nerves. It doesn’t mean anything is wrong, sip water, suck on a mint or ginger sweet.
If you’re worried about starting your period at school, pack a small starter kit with pads, pantyliners or tampons, spare underwear, and wipes. Keep it in your school or sports bag so you’re always prepared.
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Period Tips for School Lil-Lets Teens Starter PackYou might be surprised by how much you need to carry in just one day at secondary school probably more than you ever did in a whole week at primary!
That’s why it’s important to choose a strong, comfortable school bag that can hold everything: your books, stationery, homework, PE kit, and of course, your Lil-Lets Teens Starter Pack tucked away in its discreet cosmetic bag.
Top Tip: Look for a backpack or bag with thicker, padded straps they’re much better for your shoulders and back, especially when you’re carrying heavier items. And where possible, try not to carry your bag over just one shoulder, as this can lead to backache and poor posture over time.
For some of you, getting to your new school might mean catching the bus for the first time. If that’s the case, try to get a copy of the bus timetable and avoid choosing one that gets you to school just on time delays happen!
If possible, wait at a stop where other pupils gather, and do a trial run before term starts so you know the route and how long the journey takes. This will help you feel more confident and less rushed on your first day.
You may have heard stories about what older students do to new kids but don’t worry, most of these are just made up for fun. The truth is, older pupils remember what it was like to be new and are usually kind and helpful. If you’re ever unsure or feel lost, don’t be afraid to ask teachers and older students are there to support you.
In primary school, homework might have meant a bit of spelling or reading. In secondary school, it will increase but don’t panic!
Managing homework after a busy school day can feel tricky, but with a little routine, it gets easier! Here are some simple tips to help you stay on track and still enjoy your evening:
Creating a balanced evening routine helps you feel more in control and less stressed.
Starting a new school is a big step, and it’s okay if it takes time to feel settled. You don’t have to have everything figured out on day one. Take things slowly, be kind to yourself, and remember it’s perfectly normal to feel nervous.
If anything’s worrying you, talk it through with someone you trust, like your mum or a teacher. They’re there to help.
Every day will get a little easier, and soon you’ll feel right at home. You’re braver than you think, and you’ve absolutely got this!
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Don't put yourself under pressure, prepare the night before by packing your bag, laying out your uniform, and checking your planner. It’s a great way to avoid rushing around in the morning, which can make you feel stressed or even late.
You won't be alone in feeling this way, as Secondary Schools are a lot bigger than Primary school with hundreds of students....who all feel like you! Try smiling, saying hello, or asking someone if you can sit with them. Most people are happy to make new friends, especially at the start of the year.
As you won't be sitting in just one class all day in your new school getting lost can happen! But don't stress ask a teacher, older student, or even a classmate everyone understands that it takes time to learn your way around.
A new school can feel pretty overwhelming, if you feel nervous or overwhelmed try taking some deep breaths, talk to someone you trust, and remember that it’s okay to feel nervous. You’re not alone, and things will get easier with time.
Mistakes happen! Let your teacher know, and try to be prepared next time. Some schools have spare lunches or ways to help if you forget something.
Let a parent, guardian, or school know as soon as you can. If it’s safe, you might be able to walk or get a lift from a trusted adult. It’s a good idea to have a backup plan just in case.
Don’t worry it happens to lots of girls. Most schools have pads or tampons available in the office or from a teacher. You can also keep a small emergency kit in your bag with supplies and a spare pair of underwear.
Tell a trusted adult like a teacher, parent, or school counsellor You don’t have to deal with it alone, and all schools will have an Anti-bullying policy the work to. There are people who can help make it stop, because everyone deserves to feel safe at school.
